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Thank you RainyGrlJenny! It is indeed a yay!

Vacation. This is only 6 months along. Save the long term gifts for later. More importantly, is he ok with receiving expensive gifts like that? Some people struggle with that, even if the giver can easily afford it. (I assume this is true for you all.) There is a definite power umabalance if...

Uneventful is so nice, isn't it, BathedInSalt? I'm glad things have leveled out.

To go way back to the original question, I really don't have unsupportive - or at least neutral - friends around ethical non-monogamy. I live in this little bubble where being poly is more the norm. I do have friends who are monogamous. However, it's a conscious choice for them and they don't...

I've been realizing more and more just how little I settled for with Oak and Willow. It's been mortifying to really understand how little I valued myself and my time and effort. *sigh* Well, now I know better, for sure. Midwest was so appreciative and thrilled about being sexual with me. I...

Date with Midwest went really well. Next time we may actually leave the house but I kinda doubt it! :D

I do know some people who have a type of veto arrangement. One partner is extremely bad at picking partners - people who behave abusively, or addicted and not dealing with it, or mentally ill and not dealing with it, etc. Because they are so bad at picking healthy partners, the other partner can...

Update time! After some thought, I decided I was in good enough shape to start dating my old friend. I'm going to call him Midwest and his wife, Chicago. Midwest was still interested so we've continued to chat. We haven't had a date yet but we will soon. I am really looking forward to those...

I'm going to gently call you out. I think you are attempting to be the best person you can be and mean well. However, if you want to stay married, fulfill the vows you took in that marriage, and stay true to your faith, you cannot be friends with Amy in the way that you want. You are not being...

Ditto. That is not a good sign, just on it's own. Also, OP, you are under no obligation to respond individually, or to respond to all of us.

I gently suggest separating out the discomfort and exhaustion you are experiencing with your partner from your desire to see men. Have you talked with your partner about your exhaustion? It sounds like you are offering emotional and maybe other kinds of support but not getting a lot back. Does...

Whoo! I'm so glad things are going well for you and your partners! It is definitely easier to write about the difficult times and easy to just live the good times without noting them down.

Welcome! I'm glad you posted. I think lots of people - including myself - have similar concerns about dating, expectations and self-love. I've got some random thoughts to pass on. Yeah, welcome to dating. Often, it is not fun. What people often don't take into consideration when considering...

corarose, I'm going to move this thread to one of the sections meant for asking and receiving advice and suggestions. Life stories and blogs are meant more for self-reflective blogging about one's life (usually poly focused but can be anything). People can and do give advice, especially if...

Go to another doctor and get another opinion. No other option except for an implant strikes me as inaccurate. Now it could be the best option in the opinion of the doctor given your wife’s medical history. But it is literally untrue that solely because of age, an implant is the only option. If...

@River, it is. They’ve been poly for years. Neither of them have other partners now because of the demands of caring for a young child. And that is concern of mine - and his. Neither of us are sure - him on what time and energy he can really give to another relationship and I am not sure if I...

I actually have some poly news to report! An old friend and I went to a show a little while ago. My friend is a lightweight in terms of booze, as am I. I was driving so did not have much to drink. He had a couple of beers. After the show, while chatting at a coffee place, he let out that he...

River, thank you! I will watch that. Looks interesting!

Thanks MeeraReed! I will take a look!

Thanks for checking in Tinwen! I'm still - and probably forever, - working my way through. I've generally been on the upswing. I've thought so before but this feels more solid, not so based in circumstances. And I'm on antidepressants so I'm hopeful that will help level things out. TinyDog is...