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Tailspin, I'm sorry this played out the way it did. You deserved better. It isn't particularly odd that mono people have poly friends. I have many mono friends who accept me and other friends' poly ways. I wonder if your ex set up a trap for you, consciously or unconsciously. It is odd that...

I'm really sorry breathemusic, Mr. Hyde went this route. It's unfair and not right. You do deserve better.

XYZ, If you hadn't yet, you may want to create a thread of your own. Not a requirement, just a thought. Generally the mono\poly relationships that are healthy, the mono partner desires to be monogamous because it suits them, not because the other partner wants them to be monogamous. They...

Google 'Poly Role Models'. It's a blog with posts about various folks doing poly.

Does Sal have any other partners? Does she consider herself polyamorous or non-monogamous? If she doesn't - and you don't mention that so I'm going to assume she identifies as monogamous. Reading between the lines of your post, it appears that she isn't thrilled that you have other partners or...

Feeling trapped is one of my biggest fears and triggers. I find that feeling very difficult to deal with. It's so unpleasant that - eventually - I usually do something to alleviate the feeling. Change something, do something. Boredom and frustration can often contribute to my feeling trapped. I...

I have to ask. What does Snowbunny do while you and Brother-Husband watch shows? Is she working? Watching too? Doing her own thing? Yes, I'm being nosy. Feel free to tell me to mind my own business.

My periods have gotten occasionally erratic in my 40s. Sometimes I skip a month. The first few times freaked me out because my periods were always very regular and always happened every month. Now that’s not true. Just an FYI.

First of all, this whole 'nature vs. nurture' thing is entirely the wrong question. It sets up a false dichotomy of genetic vs environment which is entirely false in reality. We are all complex interweaving of genetic inheritance, genes getting switched on and off in response to environment, how...

I screen in that I'm open about wanting poly relationships. That weeds out a lot of people who want to be monogamous. I have not had the experience of people outright lying to me about poly or children. I have had the experience of people being uncertain, exploring. I know I won't date a woman...

I’ve moved. It went pretty well. I like my new place - so much quieter than my old place! I’ve been too tired and stressed to really enjoy it yet. I don’t think I will relax until I am unpacked and in a regular routine. Also Tiny Dog is at my parents as I have neither internet nor a dog walker...

Moving day is tomorrow. My goddess, packing is tedious.

Thanks Magdlyn and Atlantis! So far things have been steadily moving towards closing, which is Friday. Eek! I wasn't particularly stressed out about moving - other stuff I had to do, yes - but not moving. Well, now I'm stressed about moving since it is relatively imminent. I'm not in bad...

Closing is this week! Everything seems lined up for that. And I move a week after that. It was a packing frenzy this past weekend. I’m in decent shape and should be ready when the time comes.

Has a paternity test been done? If not, please urge him to insist on one. It would indeed be a miracle - and less likely things have happened - but there is also the possibility that the baby is not his. (Oh, and if she balks at the paternity test, waffles or otherwise seems hesitant - that is...

A tough decision but it reads like the right one for you. You seem sad but at peace about it, which makes total sense. I know I do not live very far from my parents. I'm currently about an hour away from them - that works really well.

Yes, you should break up. You are monogamous which is cool. She is not monogamous - which is also cool. And while sometimes mono-poly relationships can work fine, that isn't the case here. You two are not compatible. Unfortunately that was obvious at the beginning but we don't always pay...

I’m so glad you are in such a good place! Welcome to the forum. May I ask what ‘CSA’ means? I googled it and came up with many different results.

There is not a lot going on, beyond real estate stuff. I am cautiously hopeful I will be able to close later this month. Something could go wrong but my ducks seem to be in a row. Getting my place ready to sell continues. I am meeting with a concrete guy today. I should be able to decide which...

*very gentle internet hugs* if you want them The brain weasels are lying to you. Of course your partners want you. They care about you and want the best for you. You are not damaged nor useless. You are loved and wanted, even now, in this hard time.