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why does he tell YOU all that? If he is into you, why does he need to put you down using a third party who for all you know, never said those things? If my spouse habitually badmouthed my other partners about things that are unrelated to the way i am being treated by them, i would say to my...

And of course i didn't mean that in a gold-digging way, i meant it pragmatically. We all "get something" from our relationships, but people are often taught that it is noble to give, but to "get" ought to be at the discretion of the giver.

I do not see the similarity. Perhaps i am missing the forest for the trees.

Yeah i do have my moments in the sunshine, don't i.

Yes, i am confirming what you said - after all i did read the whole thing but i am on the ipod so i could not be arsed to quote things - but with the caveat that "unless he has something awesome that is about to expire". And as far as "drama" goes, i am using the term in a far less...

Forget about labeling yourself according to what someone else labels themselves. You know i make fun of it when people get all "OMG how DARE you try to label me AUUGH the NERVE of some ppl!!!!!one!!!1!" But what i see here is a classic case of a label allergy-attack, combined with an episode...

Unless the new guy has something awesome going that is about to expire, and i cannot imagine what that could be if i were you, then this is someone i would um, WAIT a while before getting too involved with them. Unless you are down for some drama, mama.

The great thing about being "acts-of-service-oriented" is that it allows us to express that even when we can't be together. I, too, get "on notice" when someone does something for me the RIGHT way, the FIRST time, WITHOUT asking. It means they are really noticing or paying attention to how I...

I deal with this issue by constantly being number-one at everything. No one can take my place. Go ahead. Just TRY to out-glass-head me. I double-dare you. With a cherry on top.

Last day of summer school labs. One and a half groups to go; it ain't over until it's over. Soon it shall be safe enough to move about freely.

I thought it wasn't sex unless there is a penis involved in some way. How DO two women "have sex" anyway? :confused:

Seriously, from what little you've shared, this guy sounds like a bit of a weasel. You said something about how an open relationship would be better due to a lack of trust? Sustainable non-monogamy requires more trust, not less. You start as you mean to go on (well, I believe in that anyway)...

No; but I know some useful coping strategies when dealing with shitheadery: Say No to Shitheadery.

I thought the same thing, plus, does he belong in his own life, too?

Vixtoria Dirtclustit is polyamory.com's version of that guy standing on the median strip gesticulating wildly and talking animatedly to nobody anyone else can see. Getting worked up about the things he says does not serve a useful purpose. It is much more worthwhile to treat his posts as free...

OMG that was awesome. i added it to my Favorites and it's going up on FB as soon as I hit 400 and need to be unfriended by other people before I do it to them.

Now you're talking about defining words and other serious shit. You must be one of those polier-than-thou people who wants to break everyone else's spirit to force them to fit into your group.

I believe it would be Truth According to Dirtclustit.

I highly recommend this to take that away.

Maybe you just are this way with other women (well, this one only). You just don't want girl-on-girl sex as often. If this is a problem for CP, there are choices she can make. I would explain what they are, but I bet 500 acres of abandoned farmland that does not belong to me that Gala Girl...