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This X1000. You're building this new relationship entirely on what your BF wants and on how you can accommodate him. If you continue down this path, you'll have an excellent example of codependency. Trying to accommodate the other person without first confidently knowing yourself is a...

Thank you for this update, Ms.Emotional. It's good to see you.

Translation, please. :)

In my own experience, talking about what I don't want is the easy part. What's challenging (and what moves things along) is discerning what I do want and coming to peace in my own mind about it. Once I can come to sit squarely in what I do want, things tend to move forward naturally and...

I dunno if that is clear. What do you want, Seasiren?

Ya, it smells like spam to me.

Is walkabout a thing in New Zealand like it is in Australia?

It really isn't confusing and yes, he does understand. He doesn't agree with you but he does understand what you say about additional partners. He understands perfectly and has responded that if you want additional partners, he's done. That's his hard limit based on him knowing and standing by...

Was your dad a drinker, by any chance? If so, this fits the very common picture of an alcoholic home. There is a massive amount of educational resources and great communities of health for people who have prolonged exposure to alcohol abuse (which always dovetails with many other types of...

Isaiah, were you raised in this kind of Bible culture? Perhaps it's important for you to break free of your own indoctrination? Not everyone even believes that "sin" is a thing. For example, I am Jewish and "sin" is just not part of the general non-orthodox Jewish mindset. I'm wondering what...

She didn't want a relationship at all or didn't want a relationship with you? More and more, people seem to be using "coming out as poly" as a soft transition from one monogamous relationship to another in an attempt to ease the breakup pain (which never works, BTW.) Is it possible that...

What's this all about?

If his profile is checked as single and monogamous, he's going to appear to be single and monogamous - which he is not. How can he honestly claim to be monogamous if he is looking for new partners while having a girlfriend? It's dishonest and begging for trouble.

I was in Seattle that week and it was brutal!! All of those gorgeous homes and nobody has AC because it's so rarely needed - until now. Boom.

Dang, I thought for minute that Vinsanity was back. Did I miss his goodbye?

Again, welcome to being female. So many men try to get sex any which way they can and so many women become angry and defensive because of it. All the same, despite the horror stories and the drama, so many people find love via dating apps. That's happening, too.

You're on the right track regarding the fact that long term security is an inside job, but strong people aren't necessarily able to handle poly better, strong people are better able to stand by what they value. What's important is that you become ever more clear about what you want, what brings...

I'm coming to see the term "overreact" as completely useless. What it really means is I'm valuing someone else's opinion above my own, I'm reacting inappropriately or more than I should, according to whatever outside sources. In truth, my reaction is my reaction. I feel as I feel, based on my...

No one person is ever to blame for toxic situations. One person can never, ever, ever create a crazy situation on her own, it always requires the ongoing contribution of fellow players in the drama. Everyone (except a child) involved in a crazy situation is there because they are drawn to...

The American Southern Accent descends in part from the many Scots-Irish settlements founded in that region in the 1700s.