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Thanks, Kevin, good to know that the word still exists. "Demasculinize" is a new one for me (and apparently, for my Mac's spell checker.)

What happened to the word "emasculate?"

Your heart is very likely the opposite of treacherous. It is faithful to you and communicating with you loud and clear. If you're hearing alarm bells, then it's best to listen to them, no matter what anyone else may or may not be intending, because not listening results in anxiety. You're...

Fetlife is the motherlode of poly kinksters. You can start getting a feel for the community by joining a few groups, easily found in the search. Enjoy!

Another shout out for Fetlife. Kink, to me, is an option, not a requirement, but I love talking with interesting people and Fetlife is full of them. The site fosters community, if you care to participate, and the one on one can be as short or lengthy as you like. And it's straight forward: I...

I didn't say that new excitement makes a relationship crap. I said that if I have to ask someone to put down his/her phone to focus on "us time," then the relationship is already in crap territory. By the time I feel compelled to ask, which is probably more like remind, there's a lot more...

Ugh, yes - and then there's this. This thread was exhumed just to blame polyamory and just to blame men. How does any of this help anyone move forward toward a happier life? Many men and many women use poly for a lot of crap reasons, but faaaaaaar more men and faaaaaaaar more women use...

If his words have stayed with you for yeas, then perhaps they fell on fertile ground and have something of value to offer you. My guess is that if you could have (or still) ask Marcus for clarification, then you'd be able to hear them in a different way and maybe not completely agree, but reap...

That's not only tricky, that's overlooking a serious "tell" about someone's priorities. We all have enough experience with our sacred mobile devices to know what is rude and what is not regarding their use. Perhaps high school students need to be reminded about this during class, but any adult...

Why is this comment allowed to stand? Does it not violate the terms of use here? The OP might have perhaps gone through a "terrible time" in this thread but not because of any intent from community members here. As always, we discuss polyamory and offer our best assessment of situations...

I disagree. Everyone understands commitment and everyone is committed. People vary on what they commit to, not on the concept of commitment. I divorced at 55 over the issue of sexuality because my sexuality became a high priority for me. I've since run into so very many older men who are...

What makes weed bright tasting?

OK, wait a minute. This woman is a lesbian. Sure, some lesbians are open to exploring sex with men but from what you've written it sounds like this particular woman wants to be with your wife. Period. She would be having sex with you only because it's a requirement, not because she is...

From what you've shared, it sounds like the other couple is into swinging, not polyamory. Where did you meet this couple? What were the circumstances and assumed parameters? Most people who date as couples do so under the Swing banner and polyamory would be highly unusual, if not completely...

I'm not sure why you left, but it's good to see you. :)

Healthy relationships are easy and involve minimal drama. Doesn't matter if they are marital, queer, poly, casual, romantic, familial, monogamous, whatever. Healthy relationships operate on a foundation of ease and peace. Secondary relationships can be just as toxic as nesting relationships...

Judging from what Mags posted, Dr. Fauci is giving casual sex the same guidelines as all the other get-togethers. There's no special dispensation for hooking up.

What does this mean? I'm on a media abstinence program since most of the post-election news has been nothing but dreadful. Now that the electors and the real leader of the party (Mitch McConnell) have spoken, I'm slowly venturing back into the news. Did I miss important Fauci commentary on...

As has been said, f*** that. "Guys" don't have this attitude, your guy has this attitude. There's an avalanche of crap behind this way of thinking and you're not going to correct it, only he can make those changes. Why are you in a sexual relationship with someone who has this attitude?

You didn't fuck up anything. You changed your mind. Healthy thinking people change their minds with new information and stand by their newly arrived upon decision. Unhealthy thinking people change their minds, but attempt to sacrifice their values for the happiness of others. This second...