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  1. LilacViolin

    Relationship in turmoil

    Yeah, I've really been working on that. I think that Rose and I *may* be ok but only if I have some more support. I thought about dating someone else along with Rose but I don't think it is the time for that. I am a very emotionally intimate person though, not unhealthy but that's my...
  2. LilacViolin

    Brand new here! YAY!

    Hi :)
  3. LilacViolin

    Disabled Folks

    No blatant discrimination, as this is illegal and I think most people are aware of that. I've had to fight a lot for accommodations, especially since my disability seems to come and go. I haven't been in the job market for four years though, so I don't know how things would go since the...
  4. LilacViolin

    Relationship breakdown - How can I move on?

    I'm sort of maybe in the same place too. (How's that for vague? I just have no idea) If we move away from being in a relationship, I am taking time away. Little talking, no seeing each other. And I just can't cuddle at all. Just friends in the way I'm friends with anyone else. SO worth it...
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    Disabled Folks

    I'm sorry, but people are freaking assholes. I have a cane, a walker, crutches, a boot - you name it. I probably use one, hmmm, a third of my life. And I'm so very lucky not to use it more than that. My partner and girlfriend are both supportive and tender with me, but sometimes I just...
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    Disabled Folks

    Hey, me too! :D My hips are the worst, and I have an artificial hip. I face a lifetime of surgeries as the ligaments get worse and prevent me from being mobile. Chronic pain? yes. Pain meds? Not often. Flexibility? Ohhhh yes, and that can be awesome. I think mental illness comes into...
  7. LilacViolin

    "Tell me something unique about yourself"

    Hmmm, my unique feature... I have amazingly tiny hands. Short stubby fingers. I can't wrap my hand around the handle of a gallon of milk. Well that's terribly unattractive!
  8. LilacViolin

    Relationship in turmoil

    Gala, I don't know what I need to tend to my emotional bucket. More friends for sure. I don't want to go off searching for a true love to share all of my emotions, but some day I may let life lead me toward another person. Not now though. I talked to her about my feelings of disappointment...
  9. LilacViolin

    Is there a difference....

    Oh Gala, I like that. I ask for forgiveness. It is something that I feel is important. I ask if they will forgive me for hurting them (after acknowledging the wrong) and what I can do to help rebuild the trust. Some of this comes from our culture. It is ok to say "sorry" but the other...
  10. LilacViolin

    Relationship in turmoil

    Hi. Programmer and I have been dating Rose for two years. We started out as a triad, then moved to more of a Vee, with me as the hinge. Programmer and Rose had sex when I was there but really didn't connect as lovers emotionally. As time went on I began to lean more on Rose emotionally...
  11. LilacViolin

    new girl in town

    I have 2, boy is 7 (and has aspergers, so going out is tough) and girl is 3. I am a stay at home mom and am admittedly bored. I want adult time, play, fun, community.
  12. LilacViolin

    iam newbie here..!!!!

    New here too, and hi :-)
  13. LilacViolin

    A request: state your gender and sexual preference/orientation

    Femme female, pansexual, married to a man.
  14. LilacViolin

    Exploring options in Houston, TX

    Oh, I need to follow this one. I've felt like my relationship (first triad, now girlfriend) has been a "dirty little secret" that we don't share with others. Feels like it invalidates things. How does a person live a poly relationship, in public, without harming other relationships?
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    He wants to introduce me to his girlfriend! Help!

    I've been in a similar situation, met her, and am so grateful I did. We're friends now, well, long-distance friends. You never know until you meet her. Go someplace you're comfortable, realize that she's nervous too, and try to talk about other things besides your lover. Finding other...
  16. LilacViolin

    new girl in town

    Hi :) Let's see, I'm Lilac. I live in Dallas with my spouse. We've been in the poly world for quite a while, mostly with one other person, and mostly a woman. Now I'm dating a woman - times are really hard right now - and he's not dating anyone. We're talking about joining the local poly...
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