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I am with Mono here. I don't see why the subject has to come up at all. In my case, we all agreed at the beginning not to discuss such stuff. I don't think about it at all. Even in the beginning, I didn't.

Thanks for the compliment Sage and Redpepper, I don't think I am amazing just an ordinary guy. In fact my wife is amazing, I see how hard she is working all the time to make this work. My wife and I had the conversation about whether I wanted to find someone else. In theory she agreed that I...

They are adapting to it well. The youngest two see her everyday anyway, she and OHb pick them up friday from school and keep them for a couple of hours, and they take them out saturday afternoon also. They (the young kids) have their own little version of NRE going on, the little traitors...

No they don't. Sounds like it has been working for a long time, so what is it you are tired of exactly?

sounds a bit weak I know but all I can think of to say is good luck and hope your situation gets resolved...let you know somebody is reading.

Hey, best of luck!! Yes we are interested.

Hi nightwalker. Taking another look at your post, this seems the perfect example of what I talk about in this thread: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3989&page=9 Scroll down to my post entitled examination of feelings. You know this is not jealousy, it is your PRIDE that is...

We didn't really have to talk about those things when we set it up; I suppose it was inline with what we all expected, looking back, and seemed most natural. I happily concede that compared to other's living arrangements ours is far simpler, perhaps the simplest form of V, and avoids a lot of...

Hi LMBL. I didn't know I could do this, go to peeps profiles. I am such a computer dork.

Hi Mono thanks for inviting me over. Nice family photos!

My wife's other husband is happy to look after our kids, to his credit. Also, he is always ready to jump in and offer things like car lifts at any time. That's the way it should be. With a relationship such as this comes responsibility for all participants. But then again. I am possibly viewing...

This is a difficult one when you have kids. Probably the biggest bugbear. Yes I agree you have to have the same considerations given to you that you are giving them. Are you happy with him babysitting your kids when you and your partner go out, or are none of you ready for that yet? You have to...

That's fair comment Mono. I am not a cold detached individual. I have felt pangs of jealousy, but have learned to deal with them. One way is that we have safeguards built into the arrangement. 1. the way the V is constructed; The 3/4 day split means she goes and lives with him for 3 days; the...

examination of feelings This is not about the compersion debate, just a few thoughts I have that have been brewing in my head and thought might be useful to share; anybody please jump in. I get quite a lot of time to examine my feelings and emotions since this thing started. For a mono in a...

Well Done TruckerPete:D We are NOWHERE near that stage yet.

Err :eek: That's terrible calling your wife "wifey". Don't you know that is a derogatory term? Seriously. You can google it. :mad:

Sorry I am late coming in on this one sage. Although I don't really like the word , I believe that I feel compersion. I don't believe that we monos are incapable of it because of our "wiring". All human emotions are available to each one of us. I am sure that OHb has felt it too, because of...

Rainbow, It can still be okay. I know, it happened to me. Yeah, it was like being hit by a ton of bricks, then kicked a few times when I was down. Be prepared for him to be angry. Be willing for him to lay down the initial ground rules. That will make him feel better. That's my advice. Good luck.

I will change the sig. :D Dates are extraordinarily difficult. Part of the reason our marriage got into difficulties was the strain of my work hours, which ground us both down over the years. We have a big family and at nighttime the kids are always around. The housework involved with 6 kids...

Ha! I was a bit angry when I came up with that signature line. That's how it seems, sometimes. Sex is certainly an important channel of communication, but it's not the only one. I should have written more on the background to things. One of the problems is that I am working two extra nights...