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Yes they did treat me like crap and he was a huge douche. However, anger is not an emotion I typically feel. Sadness, hurt, disappointment but not anger. I admit I have made a lot of headway in how I feel about him, I have let go of many of the illusions I had about them. I appreciate the...

Oh Galagirl, I adore you. You figured out that he loves to push boundaries and sees them as a challenge. You are all right as usual. I suppose I should have told him I am done, but honestly I was just hoping to fade away and disappear. I will be in his area for about 2 weeks and the chance of...

Although I have been avoiding contact with him, he has on occasion contacted me and which has made it difficult to cease all contact with him. I have not completely let go despite my best intentions to do so. I am worried he will work his way back into my heart if I come face to face with him.

Oh joy (note sarcasm) looks like I will be going back to his town for work in a few weeks. Do I tell him or just go there. It is likely we would run into each other while I am there.

A few people have also suggested to avoid contact for 40 days. Although if your guy is anything like mine, which it sounds like he is, he will contact you every once in a while just to keep you on the line. Makes the no contact part hard.

There is nothing wrong with feeling your feelings and acknowledging it breaks your heart. I am glad you see that you will always be treated like the outsider in that relationship and you deserve better. it is not fair to always be given shit for not doing enough for her, you are not living to...

At least, from the sounds of it, we would be able to share blissfully. :)

Thank you Leetah. I was reading this thread and thinking "Wow! I could have written this!" It sounds exactly like what I went through. When I am with him alone he is perfect for me and we get along so well, as soon as she is around it is a different story. I can relate 100%. Honestly, from my...

Thank you so much for your support and giving me the tough love I need. I really appreciate your suggestions everyone of you and I will continue to lean on polyamory.com as this site genuinely has caring, considerate people who reach out to strangers. Thank you for enduring my whining I am sure...

A little bit of time has passed now and I find myself needing some tough love because Ethan is so damn hard to get over. We have spoken several times since I left, mostly while he too was out of town. However, now that he is back home with June he has become distant once again. My pride prevents...

That is exactly it, she is not cut out for having a poly partner. That is why she is determined to turn him monogamous. I think she might even succeed because he is so blind to her manipulation. I suppose maybe that is a positive for both of him, if he is so blind to it then it must be love that...

Thank you for sharing, it feels comforting to know my story is similar to someone else who managed to move on. I too was banished to the guest room and it felt terrible. I felt so unwanted and rejected. Part of me wonders if her attitude towards me stemmed from self esteem issues as I am thinner...

Hi Nyork1234, there are a lot of things that you have said that concerns me. First of all I am unclear who stopped the affection in your relationship, you or your husband? I can understand that you have probably had a hard time feeling sexual with two young children at home. Not only are...

Thank you, I am not deterred from opening myself up to someone more deserving. Now that it feels more final and close,d I feel a new sadness over the loss. But I will continue to remind myself that he has lost a lot more and will continue to experience loss as June will be sure to sabotage every...

So true, thank you. I am heading home anyways and leaving this nightmare behind me. :D

I could not put it any better myself :) Frustrating to say the least. I had an opportunity to spend a wonderful hour alone with him, but as soon as she was no longer occupied it was back to the same. It is more clear than ever that it will never change. I do not want to care for someone and...

This is exactly what happens, drives me crazy! I feel this dilemma as I do not want to be the insensitive one who just doesn't understand her needs I wish he would do this... but he won't. Besides it would probably send her spinning into another "panic attack". Sadly, I don't think Ethan...

Thank you PinkPig, it is a sucky place to be but honestly having a place like this site has helped by offering a venue to vent my feelings and work through them quicker than if I just allowed myself to obsess over the whole thing. I will remain friends with him for sure as I still love him and...

I'm sorry I was not clear about the timeline before. I suppose it helps to explain my frustration. Although June was already in his life as a long distance relationship when Ethan and I met, we began our relationship without her involved. In fact he and I were seeing each other for months before...

Lostbasil, I think being new to a poly relationship and not being poly can be very difficult for anyone. Please keep in mind that your boyfriend is not seeing other people because of anything you lack. The beauty of being polyamorous is that people get to love many people for a variety of...