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He and June started seeing each other about a year before he and I met. When they began seeing each other it was a long distance relationship as well and he was already in poly relationships with other women. So June knew who he was. Two years after he and I started seeing each other (three...

Thank you, honestly I am starting to be more annoyed about it than anything. Maybe I am a little cold but I just find myself feeling fed up and over the drama, I do not have time to cater to other people's bad behaviours. Either that or it is just a phase and I will be more sad about it later.

I am primarily focusing on my work, which is the primary reason I am here. However, we have seen each other and spoken. He thinks that June and I simply need our space. Personally I think he is just avoiding the conflict by not discussing it. I am never given time alone with him, when I do see...

Thank you, I appreciate the positive responses. I am all over the place with my emotions. I suppose I just need to let them run their course.

Thank you GalaGirl, your advice has always been helpful.

Thank you that is kind of you to say xo.

So I have been trying to distance myself from this thread as I have been feeling a lot of criticism towards the validity of my feelings. This has made my difficult situation feel that much more difficult. However, I do want to clarify a few things. Yes there generally are hierarchies in BDSM...

You are both right that it is not entirely her fault, however, she knew he was poly from the day they met. She willingly entered into the relationship knowing his expectations and agreeing to them. I do believe that she originally felt she could be on board with it all but eventually changed her...

I am glad for you and Butch that he found the courage to eventually tell you how he felt. Honestly I feel June owns more of the problems in the relationship. She is being deceitful and manipulative. As I have had time to myself to think about it I feel it is something I need to distance myself...

When I really think about it, I think coming for this extended visit has been a good thing. In the past when he and I would spend a day or two together alone, or when I spent a few days with them as a couple it was easy for everyone to just hide their emotions and "fake" it. However, it is a lot...

I will research some of your suggestions, thank you for the information. Us sitting in silence for hours waiting for him to come home certainly had nothing to do with excitement. Neither of us are the silent sub only speaking when spoken to. When I am with my friends or alone with Ethan I have...

Thank you for your support, I do believe this will be a positive move for me as well. I came to the decision last night as Ethan was working late and June and I literally sat in complete silence for 4 hours until he got home. I figure if she can't even be bothered to try to hold a conversation...

I will be leaving tomorrow for a little while.

You're right I think I will go stay there a couple of nights, but not until I have a discussion with him so that the two of them can talk about what I have to say while I am gone. With any luck things will be resolved. Everyone craves some space right now. Except maybe Ethan.

It is not as though I invited myself to stay with them, Ethan invited me. Before I came I asked a million times if he was sure it would be fine. I am not the house guest who will not leave. In fact before I came a secured a place and paid for it just in case I needed to get away. I have...

I agree that I was their unicorn, although I do not fit the profile of being younger as I am in my 30's. I understand your frustration with my responses as I have not made a commitment on how to deal with the situation. But I want to assure you I have heard everything everyone has said, you...

NYCindie and Vinsanity, you are both correct, I should not be afraid to tell him how I feel. I wonder a little if my fear is contrived and not really something I should be worried about. I suppose talking to him would be the best way to figure that out. Magdlyn, I agree that June is not a bad...

That is a little bit insensitive to attack my self esteem as in every other aspect of my life I am quite secure and in control. Gala Girl, I love how you analyze a situation and offer a variety of solutions. Yes being free of Junes mess is the ideal solution here, however, I would be fine with...

Some people have a difficult time breaking hard news and they try to soften the blow by telling the recipient what they think that person wants to hear. Unfortunately telling someone a lie to spare their feelings can often result in causing them more pain because eventually the truth will reveal...

You're right, it is difficult as a sub to stand up for my needs in a relationship but I am starting to reach that boiling point. Passive aggressive is a perfect description for how she is behaving towards me. My biggest fear in telling him how I feel about the situation is how he might react...