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Hello, So having somewhat recently come to the conclusion that opening our relationship up could significantly help our own relationship (original thread: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=73833) my fiance and I have been struggling with the whole thing, in all honesty. The long...

Thanks everyone, I was leaning towards removing that rule in particular as I know it is based purely on my fear of losing my fiancee. It'll be tough, but I need to leave it to my partner to decide what is best for her (and us as a couple). This is obviously going to challenge my insecurities...

Apologies for not responding to this thread for sometime, I just thought everything had been going smoothly in our endeavours and didn't feel the urge to seek advice, but alas I'm back. I suspect this may happen a lot! Haha thanks ALottaLove, I appreciate the thoughts. Your question is fairly...

Okay, okay yes I see that. I think I'm just finding it hard sharing her, even when we aren't doing things together. It feels like she is choosing to go and do her own thing (texting him) rather than spending time together, which we would typically do. Usually I would have her all to myself, but...

Hi HappilyFallenAngel. I may have exaggerated a bit about how much she talks to him. At first it was often, but I told her I felt like she was talking to him too much and wasn't present in our relationship. She has died it down more recently, but I do feel she messages him more than she ought...

Thanks nycindie, you're right, I have always been an insecure person and one of the main reasons I am happy in my current relationship is my insecurities have never been brought to light as my fiancee has never given them reason to. This transition, though, is seriously challenging those...

Thank you all very much for your responses. It is very comforting knowing that I don't have to talk about her relationships or meet the men she is with for this to work in the long-term. Even though some day that may be more likely to happen, right now it's not something I want to do. She...

Thanks reflections. I didn't know the word metamours, looks like I need to read the lingo :P I'm pleased with the progress we have been making, it makes me believe we can do this. I think my fiance is a little concerned at how well I'm taking it actually! Haha, only joking. I think we can...

Thank you nycindie, I'll be sure to browse these threads when I get a chance. I like your approach of just considering it to be something we are both incorporating into our lives and so far it actually feels like that. Thanks ZigZag. I am actually finding it okay so far, like you say I think...

Hi TenK, First of all, thank you so much for your response, it has actually opened up my eyes a lot more as to what this is going to be like. I knew it was going to be hard, for both of us, and I think you are right that there is every chance she might develop deep feelings for any guy she is...

Thanks for your advice Kevin. Are you in a mono-poly relationship yourself? We haven't been trying for a year yet, we have only just agreed to do it (she hasn't actually been with a guy yet). I think you're right that time will tell. It's a little different for us as it's not just me that is...

Hello everybody, So this is my first post here as this is really the first time this has become an issue in my life. I guess I'll start with the back story. So I have been with my fiance for nearing 2 years now, and we are madly in love with each other, and perfect for each other in every way...