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I am sitting here crying, because I feel like I can't buck up and accept it. What a crap feeling. :confused:

I have not met him. She does not think it would be appropriate to bring him around. My husband is super cool, but isn't asking to hang out with him, or anything. If it was someone she felt really solid about, she probably would, but she's also expressed being weirded out by the fact that...

I have come to some recent discoveries, in the last 24 hours, really, that I am having a difficult time processing. I am toying with the notion that I may not actually be polyamorous. I am in a triad, that has evolved so beautifully over the last 18 months. My husband, myself, and our female...

These are all normal questions and fears to have. Discussing them openly with both of these people, all together, is the best way to maintain a clear understanding of what each of you needs to feel a part of the triad. It is the most important thing, I believe. Communicate, communicate, and...

These scenarios are the worst. And, let me soapbox a little- as women, we are kinda taught from the beginning that we need to be 'nice' and 'sweet', etc. These types of conditioning do nothing but aid in us not listening to our discomfort. He betrayed you, your trust, and is back peddling to...

I see that, totally!! It is definitely potentially risky. But, I suppose, that poly lifestyle can also be as risky, off the starting block? But, yes, Raven, I see your point. And dammit, my intentions are good. Thank you for noticing. :)

I won't "take it on", but inquiring minds want to know. Six partners?? The cup isn't running over?

The expanse of human sexuality is infinite. There are dynamics that poly people do not have, and maybe are not into, and while that may carry weight, it can sometimes lead to biased advice. That is not, however, mentioned, to minimize said advice- but, I think that creating a forum for people...

I agree, completely. A lie is an untruth. From what I have read, learned, and have been told, truth and open communication are the very foundations of polyamory, no? Do not feel ridiculous. Yes, you snooped, but, look what you uncovered. Take that into account. Ignoring it could bite you...

This is a very interesting perspective. I have had serious trouble with creating boundaries in my life, poly or not. I am very trusting of people, typically, and it has led to my demise, in some instances. For me, the lines between boundaries and walls are VERY blurred. It's frustrating...

As a new member of this forum, and as a person in her first polyamorous "relationship(s)", I would find this incredibly helpful, and frankly, much less discouraging. Thank you, Ravenscroft....

This is awesome. I have SO many questions.

Ha! I get that. Funny, before, I'd be like, "What's up dude?" when we saw each other. I don't call her dude very much anymore. Hahaha The cadence of our conversation has changed. I am also dating a woman for the first time. I have had many casual hook ups throughout my not-so-boring single sex...

All very valid points, guys! I have always had really great experiences that way, but I am me, and he is not. I am also a hopeless utopian. :/

I tried to send you a PM, it wouldn't let me. Hi!! I just read through a thread of yours....we have LOTS in common, girl.....let's chat....I'd love to wrack your brain!! <3 Also, Healing Trauma by Peter Levine. Excellent book, really quick read......no revisiting traumas. I just completed the...

Hi Octa!!!!!

I met my girlfriend in 2004, and we've been real close ever since. There was a 6 year lull in our friendship, NOT due to a fallout, thankfully. We got back in touch in 2012, and started dating in 2015. Has anyone else become intimate/gotten into a relationship with someone, after years of being...

QUOTE: The threesome thing is an interesting idea, we never have but have talked about it before, I guess with a kid it seems difficult for us both to be out dating at the same time, and whilst travelling it is hard to find anyone you trust enough to watch him. Still where there's a will there's...

Keep in mind that having an injury can SERIOUSLY put you in a funk. Add to that, you're in a rehab center, trying to recover. This is a truly crap situation, and keep in mind- the person this is most difficult for, is YOU!! I broke my upper arm in half, 2 years ago. I had a 2 year old, and a 5...

FallenAngelina is solid!!! That is such great insight....