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I was reading the book The Molecule of More lately. They talk in there about how porn can easily become an addiction. It has the effect of making sex boring. The timing was just right for me because I had started to watch porn more during that time and wasn't feeling great. Guess what, it really...

I'm a bit in the same boat regarding poly friendships. I openly talk about it to any of my friends, family and even random people I just met sometimes. Unfortunately, few are interested to know more about it. I'm going to go to a poly meetup in Montreal when I come back from a trip and can't...

I'm sorry for what you're going through. I know how hard it can be because I've recently had a similar experience where my wife didn't want to open up our relationship while it became clear to me that I could never forget about polyamory. I don't feel like writing my whole story here but if...

Damn, I guess I'm kinky then :) I'll definitely have a look at it. Exactly, I like that kinks requires rules and that might translates into people who can communicate like adults online.

I've seen many times people saying they are on Fetlife but I never bothered looking it up since I'm 0% kinky, until somebody makes me discover I'm wrong ;P The only thing that I like that is near to a kink is to have long cuddle sessions with elements of tantra. Would I be able to find people...

Yes, I think you're right. I'll need to focus on partners who value freedom and autonomy. Affection is very important to me but I'm able to keep the contact through periodic discussions. I already do it with a cuddle buddy I had back in New York. We always kept it platonic and even though I...

Definitely. We're on the same page. I wouldn't call it polyamory if my intent wasn't to be 100% transparent. I already read The Ethical slut, Opening up, Polysecure, Designer Relationships, and Sex at Dawn was on my list. But the link you've provided is very useful. I see a bunch of interesting...

I would keep writing and talking to my distant partners while I'm away, and hopefully some would be able to visit me, but I'm sure there's a risk that some partners end up finding other people who are more present and decide they are no longer interested in keeping a relationship with me. I...

I've never had a long distance relationship. In fact, I've never had polyamorous realtionships. It's very possible that I'm too naive about how such a configuration would work. If I understand, you're saying that it might be harder because I won't be there physically to make my first partners...

To make a short story, I can't stand the cold weather. Ideally I would live all year round somewhere warm but my family and friends are in Quebec. My solution is to split half my time every year between two locations. Technically it seems to me that I could have a separate partners in each...

It's all good advice. Thank you ❤️

I'm curious, when was the last time you were on OkCupid? This is where I met my wife 13 years ago and it was a great site. When I went lately it had become one of those swipe app where it keeps showing profiles more or less related to what you're looking for, very much superficial. I think it...

This is a great piece of advice. I like the way you describe how to slowly let the relationships grow without forcing them. Thank you.

I discovered 2 years ago that I'm carved out for polyamory. That has led to a seperation, soon to become a divorce. Prior to my separation, the compromise my wife and I had in order to keep our relationship working was that I could cuddle others platonicaly, no kissing and no nudity. I actually...

Dating apps used to be much better. Now they are designed to make you stay there and keep giving them money. I don't think any is good even for monogamous people. The only one I found that's decent is Feeld, although I now live in a small town so it doesn't really work for me either. The problem...