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While some of this us true, there are a lot of falsehoods and misrepresentations in what you're saying. The OT was orally passed down tradition, so by the time it was finally written, whatever truth that was in it might be few and far between. The NT was, however written mostly by the people...

I have looked everywhere. But I live in the south. Poly or alt friendly is just nowhere to be found. This place at least has lots of experience with families with special needs children. But what do I tell my wife when an "expert" is telling her she has never seen it work? That I met some...

A lot more of it is how we are going to help our autistic son and where are we going to come up with the money for the next thing they suggest, and the next tuition payment, and so on. But relationship stuff too. We got married far too young and both made a lot if relationship mistakes that we...

I don't pay as much attention to the details of the laws in the Bible. In my opinion, anything that creates more love is of God and anything that creates less is not and will only leave you spinning your wheels. That's also pretty much a summation of how Jesus saw it, according to the...

Update: So I got my wife to go see a counselor again. She is going to see her first for a couple of weeks and then we will start marriage counseling. She is not a Christian counselor. But I already have one concern. She of course told her in the first session that I had expressed a desire to...

Maybe I'm just incredibly handsome. lol There are a lot of assumptions in that post. I go out with coworkers a couple of times a month to unwind. I think it's healthy to spend that time out just letting loose and having fun. It's actually been really good for our marriage. Our marriage is one...

Lots of great responses. Thanks guys. I'm definitely learning

I once told my wife she should leave me. I said, "I can deal with not being happy the rest of my life. But there are two things I can't deal with... 1. Not being myself. I'm gonna be who I am 100% from this point forward. 2. You not being happy. So if you aren't happy with who I am then I...

I will never admit to being the type of guy who would easily be able to find what I'm looking for in relationships. lol But I will say if a potential mate talked the way some of y'all do about relationship expectations I'd slowly back away and run for the door. I understand that makes me sound...

I'm sorry. In probably being really stone headed at this point and maybe it's because I don't have any experience yet but a few things I just don't understand. If being poly means committing the rest of my life to multiple people than I am NOT poly. The last thing I want is more commitments. I...

I guess I fail to see how setting boundaries in a relationship is treating them as lessor? All of us have boundaries in every relationship whether we are poly or mono. So if I say to a potential new lover that I want to find someone to love and cherish, but my lifelong commitment will always be...

Wow, lots of interesting conversation on the topic! So I'm assuming if you are married and decide to become poly together then there would have to be certain rules put in place depending on people's comfort level. I'm not saying you try to quantify loving one person more or less than another...

Alcohol does things to women. lol Also, some women like the challenge of a married man. And then when you tell them no, they think you're just playing hard to get. I'm honestly not a big flirter. Even if we were poly I would struggle with it. For two reasons. 1. I've been dating and or...

Thanks I will look into that today. All good advice. I wouldn't have time for a relationship that required a lot it time. Not to say I couldn't send her nice notes and texts throughout the day, but actual dates we go on would probably be limited to once a week or so. Certainly not another...

So this is strictly for educational purposes as I'm not currently in a poly relationship. But if you are not the Primary in a relationship then aren't you essentially in a submissive position. I'm not saying that's a bad thing. I love and respect a beautiful submissive woman personally. It just...

Have you expressed these thoughts to them? If you have and they are not willing to compromise on that then you have two options. Either enjoy the relationship the way it is or part ways.

I know that's part of it. Part of it is personality. She doesn't like to feel out of control of anything in her life. I don't like to have my entire life under control. It's not either of our faults. We just are the way we are. And you are right that an autistic child throws a huge kink into her...

I think insurance would cover most of it once the deductible is met. We hit our whole deductible every year because we have an autistic child, so it may not cost that much.

I personally have dealt with my faith issues. I am still a Christian, but in my opinion most Christians really don't understand their faith and stick to this doctrine that has more to do with societal norms than anything religious in nature. Anyone outside of those norms is a "sinner" and...

I agree. We did actually try counseling 2 other times. Once she stopped going because she thought the counselor didn't understand her at all (even though I thought she was right on) lol The other time we moved and just didn't see a new one. But to be honest, I wasn't as self aware and confident...