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I am going to be straight to the point. If you are going to be starting a family now is not the time for polyamory. Small children heck children in general take a lot of time, energy, and resources. NRE is a wicked drug and people do not always use the best judgement during that time. When my...

First of all you cannot make boundries for other people to follow. It just doesn't work. You can only set rules and boundries for yourself. Who cares is your ex is liar. She is now an ex. Stop over analyzing and move on. If she causes you this much stress then do not have her in your life.

One of the first thoughts you AND your wife should have is for the Unicorns feelings. People are not sex toys to spice up your relationship.

Lol... Nope not a feminist. Actually I am disgusted with the current treatment of men in our society. Most of my friends are men. I was just calling a spade a spade. Your statements about children and women in this thread are disgusting. Would you want a man to treat your mother or sister the...

Actually in ethical polyamory the option for her husband would be the option for him to date and develop relationships of his own. If you need to "get something out of the arrangement" then you shouldn't be dating someone who is poly. Relationships are not about keeping score.

If you are so in your prime that women fall at you feet begging you to take them home then why are you so insecure and threatened by the thought that your partner will run of and dump you for another? BTW another woman can replace you just as easily as a man. It is because you now realize that...

My advice as someone who has been in a vee with 2 monogamous men for 7 years is this. Do not overshare with your partners about your other relationships. Respect their privacy. Listen and communicate. Keep your word. Keep to a schedule. Do not let one relationships issues bleed into another...

This board is not a dating or hook up site. Fetlife would be more appropriate for connecting with others. Here we talk about and support folks trying to navigate in a poly network. While this is a sex positive message board, sex is not the focus of this board. Some of us are asexual...

Your partner is opposed to poly. You could: go back too being in a monogamous relationship. Agree to back off the idea and do some research together until it is a joyous yes for everone. you could try and continue forward despite your partners feelings. you could decide that you two are not...

I had dated here and there two years before I met Murf, nothing long term, and I wasn't necessarily searching hard for another partner either. I have always approached dating as: if someone comes along wonderful. If not, that's okay. I introduced my children to the equation slowly. Things...

I have 2 kids who are 12 and 16 now. They were 5 and 9 when things got serious with Murf and I. The first 6 months of dating Murf I only saw him if Butch was available to be home with them. When I knew he was interested in the long haul and Butch was ok with it Murfs presence in their life was...

I do not have a primary partner. But my husbands are important to me and I have interwoven my life with both men.

I have always been poly inclined. Before 17 years ago I was a serial monogamist. I am not enjoy casual sex so I went fron relationship to relationship instead of cheating. Butch is the one who pointed out polyamory to me Just because someone is in a relationship doesn't mean they have to be...

I have been with my husband Butch for 17 years and my other husband Murf for it 7 years in May. Both of my guys consider themselves monogamous. And they are both heterosexual. We do not all live under one roof. My guys like being masters of their own domain. So I own homes with both and split...

I agree with Mags....

Murf has no urge to date or persue anyone else. He only accepts me as poly because I came that way into his life. I did not drop the poly bomb during our relationship. He decided that it is something he had to accept to have me in his life. He also never saw himself married or living with...

I am sorry but I find this phrase offensive. It would be like calling people the gays... The blacks.. The Muslims.. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being monogamous and not all monogamous people feel the same way about any subject. "The monos" comes across as very derogatory and...

Nothing is real until you meet and spend some time together. She could have habits that are huge deal breakers. She could be a nose picker, a slob, a neat freak, hate cats dogs kids..have other habits or beliefs that do not mesh with yours. You have no idea. I have met many a person who seemed...

Sorry I tend to be a direct and to the point type person. Plus I am a busy 40 something woman and my time is limited. I juggle a full time job, and I work in an industry in which Christmas time is chaos. I have two husbands and two seperate homes 25 miles apart homes to take care of. I also...

First of all are you willing to lose her as a friend? Second it is very unethical to expect Serenity to be in a relationship of any sort with your boyfriend. She should have 100% say in whom she brings into her life and in what capacity. Third have you even met her in person and spent anytime...