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I thought that I had posted that I went for dinner. It's been a crazy week. I did go for dinner and we hung out. Nothing happened other than we got comfortable with each other. Then we made plans for me to come over last Tuesday... Tuesday I was sitting outside and I started to see spots. Then...

I've been meaning to ask you what NZ's immigration policy is like lol.

Since you said you were playing devil's advocate I just assumed you were putting forth a counter argument for the sake of debate.

To me it would suggest he had a boat with a bar and a sundeck and didn't mind that she didn't like to do any actual fishing.

What you see as "cold and dishonest" I see as recognizing a partner's insecurities and not enabling them. You are trying to make this a gender thing, but all genders have insecurities. What if a woman told her male partner she didn't want him to be with a woman with a tighter vagina? Or a woman...

While you should have patience with your mono partner, "taking it slow" can become a trap. Often the partner who wants to take it slow becomes comfortable with that level of control and does no work on themselves. So the answer will always be they are not quite ready yet. I'm not saying you...

As the owner of an average sized penis I can tell you that you are not being unreasonable. You are correct that it is a ridiculous boundary. Your boyfriend has some deep seated issues with self esteem. The good news is that he recognizes that. The bad news is he doesn't want to improve himself...

That is exactly what it is. I suppose calling it disentangling can be confusing, because the goal should be to still be a couple so it sounds counterintuitive. But the goal is to have more than one couple relationship, right? So you want to have enough individualism to do that. It sounds like...

That's interesting. I never felt the need to negotiate compromise in that manner. Probably because we mostly had similar interests. We also had activities we did on our own that the other had no interest in. With Sprite I compromised on public play, but enjoyed being with her anyway. I didn't...

You have to remember that most of us are speaking from experience. Jealousy is jealousy. It doesn't matter if you are jealous of your married partner or the partner you are married to. Jealousy usually comes from a fear of losing someone. In your case it may just be from societal conditioning...

It's very rare for a couple to separate without a lot of emotions. The best thing to do is to do it quickly and then have an actual separation period with little or no contact. You each need to deal with your own emotions. You can't do that for each other.

But the goal isn't to disentangle with one partner so you can just get all entangled with another. The goal is to reach a level of entanglement that is acceptable to everyone. That being said, it does happen the way you described sometimes when NRE is involved. It's always a good idea to not...

I'm sorry you were offended by some of the posts. This isn't really a support group. People just give their thoughts and advice. No need to take it personally as nobody here knows you. People post with the best intentions. If you are feeling suicidal, I urge you to call a suicide hotline...

So we had tentative plans for me to come over for dinner yesterday, but then my car started acting up. I did some work on it, but it's still not running. I could have taken an Uber over there but I was pretty wiped from working out in the heat all day. I had the car towed over to a shop today so...

Nobody uses their partners real names here, but we come up with nicknames for them because single initials confuse some people. D may never want to meet B. There's nothing wrong with that. I don't formally meet metamours if I can help it. Some people claim that mono partners aren't poly, but...

If you are just looking to get laid, that's one thing. But if you are looking to get out and meet people, that can be done safely. I've met a couple people at parks. Had a couple dates where social distancing was happening. Moving towards the next step with someone I feel is not a real risk. I...

She is worried she will bore me because she is so inexperienced. It's actually quite exciting for me because I haven't been with a complete newbie since my first wife, and I was a newbie myself. So far her hard limits are reasonable. No needles, cutting, etc. All things I'm not really into...

We talked a little today. I'm trying to get her to be comfortable enough to open up and ask questions. I can tell she's nervous about being a complete newbie. I told her to do some exploring on the net. We are going to talk more tonight.

Welcome to the forum. Looking forward to hearing about your adventure.