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Haha oh gawd, my best friend at church read that age 17 ish and left the church. I couldn't understand why she would do that. Now I have to go back to her and tell her I'm sorry for thinking she was terrible for leaving church.

Well they don't teach you that stuff in church do they! Thank you for the interesting facts Mags I told one of my church friends that I'm not attending church right now and she said "I suggest you speak to one of the leaders ASAP". It's so interesting moving away from the church mindset because...

That made me 'lol'!! Have you thought about getting someone to help you complete your profile? Often others have a better perspective of us than we do of ourselves! I hope your experience with ladders improves soon...hahaha!

Weeeeell exactly, this is one of the things I've woken up to. I don't feel like there is an enemy. I hear the church talking about being free and being released from fear and then they create this fictional fear for themselves which doesn't feel based on anything substantial. Really...I just...

Hi lizardqueen, I'm afraid I'm not going to be great for giving advice as I am new to this concept too. For a long time I have wanted meaningful connections with several people at a time and felt 'bad' about it so tried my best to ignore it (well it destroyed my last relationship). I guess...

Thank you Nadya, nycindie and GreenAcres for your advice. You are definitely right and I will put the poly-talk on the back burner. We need to explore this new version of 'life' with him going to church and me not and see how that goes. I feel such peace about it right now. But yes the...

I'm awesome at karaoke ;) haha!!

The latest is that I have left the church. I still need to find a way to explain it to all the people in my church as I was putting on a very good Christian front. I was in the worship team and involved in lots of stuff. So right now I'm focusing on that and focusing on finding peace. This is...

Thanks for your insight on your whole reply Mag, I really appreciate it. I'm working through lots of the posts in the spiritual section and learning a lot. I don't think its always that people are afraid to think for themselves, it's just easier to be told what to think, what to believe, how...

Idlewild are also an awesome band!

I've been reading a book called Journey of Souls and I feel like I'm awakening to a lot of things all at once. And because I want to stay anonymous for now

Mostly yes. We have both grown up in church so it's all we know. It really is a conditioning when it begins from early on in life. I think that's why teens who have grown up in church very often rebel! I rebelled age 18 when I went to to university. I went back to God and the church after that...

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I have now started thinking for myself and not trying to be the person I'm expected to be. I've spoken to my mom about the fact that I'm leaving the church. She has been very understanding and we had some good theological debates on various topics...

Okay, thank you. So there you go that is another mindset that needs changing. That a wife should accept her husband for exactly who he is and just work around it. I will look back over your questions and give them some proper thought before I respond. We have both changed in various ways since...

I may have to answer all of that in a pm if I may? I feel like I've already pulled my husbands character apart in a public place enough! Perhaps too much in fact. eep! It wasn't my intention as I certainly don't blame him for everyone, I have faults too

All of this is a very good point and has made me realise, that no i don't feel like I have a safe space to talk about vulnerable stuff. I've been trying to discuss with him the changes I am going through in my spiritual life and he just...shuts me down. I'll try to explain about something I've...

See...when it comes to your non-Christian rant...the church kinda just has a cover-all answer for that and would say "she has been misled and deceived by the enemy..." Blah blah blah. And being in the church all my life, I'm having to struggle with reconditioning myself to not default to these...

Thank you for your absolute honesty. And yes you're right, if the shoe was on the other foot, I would want to know what my husband was feeling or thinking. I guess I'm still coming to terms with my poly nature, as it hadn't occurred to me before. All of this will turn my world upside down too so...

Yes I agree. My friend and I are taking a break from contact and I've explained the situation to him. It's quite painful when you love someone that much but I can't throw away years of marriage and the fact that I do love my husband. This is also quite confusing and overwhelming for me too, I...

Thanks Karen, I shall not lose hope then. I just don't know how to bring up the subject again really!!