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We're both stubborn strong-minded people. It worked well when we believed and wanted the same things. Now it doesn't. We're just both pushing to not lose the love we have I guess. It's a painful situation that will have to end one way or the other.

Max, you really seem to have a problem with me... Is it purely because from what you have read in a brief glimpse of my life, you believe me to not be remorseful or caring about what is happening to my husband from my actions? Or is there something else I've done to terribly offend you? I'm not...

Okay so here you're saying that I shouldn't be selfish and dismissive of the upheaval I am causing... And now you're saying if I want to be happy I should just go off and be poly with people who want to be poly... If you read back, I am already trying to come to terms with the fact that my...

"It seemed like". Thanks for the judgement. I thought a "good" husband would be understanding, supportive, take time to see a viewpoint. A "good" husband does NOT leave the house and go and 'out' his wife to her parents. Including regarding her sexuality. A "good" husband wouldn't have failed to...

I'm pretty sure I get a say here right?? Right. Because this is about me and my situation. I find it bizarre how some people think they can make direct and hurtful statements about a person purely based on the things they write on a forum thread... Firstly, as Mags said, I don't want to 'sleep...

We talked more yesterday and he said I need to choose whether to stay with him and be faithful to him and monogamous or we separate. And then I got the talk of how devestating it will be to break the family unit. I was trying to explain how if we separate because of this difference then it would...

I guess so... And you're right, it's not loving behaviour. Maybe it comes from fear? Insecurity? I don't know but it makes me sad. I guess he didn't like that I changed in more ways than one.

Well an update... He has told me that he will never accept multiple relationships; not now, not in a week, not in a year, never. So I either have to choose to deny myself and stay monogamous with him (and live a life of being misunderstood and mocked for my thoughts on life in general) or we...

Hey Wishful, we are in very similar positions. I have been married for 8 years, have two children and I do love him. I have been in the church and been a Christian all my life but I recently left so I guess that is a difference. If you would like to chat you are welcome to PM me. My thread is in...

I could probably tell you what most of us want......happiness :) and what brings that is different for everyone

My life has been all about monogamy, didn't realise there was a different way. So once I found out about polyamory, I realised that I could identify to loving more than one - and that it is how I would like to live my life. Rather than painfully trying to stay mono/failing at mono.

Lol! Cyndie I just asked because there is a bigger age gap between me and my "friend" than between me and my husband and I just wondered what everyone's experiences were. So yes, just interested haha!

Cameron Diaz has revealed that she doesn’t think monogamy is for her, and instead would rather have “lots of lovers”. The actress said in a recent interview that she thinks couples now expect too much from each other, and says we should treat our romantic relationships more like we treat our...

Ha, I guess I don't know! I guess the majority of people I know have a 1-6 year gap, for those in a mono marriage with kids kind of thing.

Yay for relationship anarchy!!! I can't add any more than Jane has because her responses are awesome. But hi!

I was thinking about age gaps recently, between people in a relationship and wondered what the thoughts of the people here are. What kind of ages gaps do those in polyamorous relationships have? Does it reflect the 'norm' for those who are monogamous or does it vary? For those who have an age...

Ultimately, my children's safety and well-being is my highest priority. But that also doesn't mean that I ignore my feelings about how I should live my life because I also think that's not setting a good example. Children need whole parents, or as whole as they can be. Even if it means those...

Thank you all for your honesty. Frankly, this whole thing has thrown me, so it is good to get perspective - especially as I'm in an emotional whirlpool. So thanks for that. We all have the ideal situation for how we want our lives to look in our head. And yes mine is a polyamorous situation...

Thank you. Doesn't help that I don't know what I want to do! Right now I'm mainly focusing on working on our marriage to make sure within myself and to show him that the issues in our marriage are not the reason for me feeling this way for others. But really deep down I feel that I am...

Wonderful news, happy for you and hope it progresses well.