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Hi All, First of all I want to say a huge thanks for the people who are on here and are so supportive of me, and of each other. I browse on here a lot, and learn so much from your posts. It makes me think and reflect a great deal about my own experiences, and has been so valuable! I am...

Wow, you guys, I have done a complete 180 about how I felt yesterday. It took a lot of talking with partner and processing and trying to understand why I felt the way I did... own my own sh*t, so to speak. Once we talked about it enough, more came from his side which was the most reassuring...

Hi Belle, Your post reminds me of a lot of feelings I've felt before, though I am in a different situation in that I had a live in partner (not anymore...) when I started on the poly journey. I would have felt the same exact way about the TV show thing... It is important to feel that there are...

Thanks so much, Gala and Kevin. It just feels nice to be "heard" and supported, even from afar on a forum. My poly experience has been a roller coaster ride. Sometimes I wonder why I even suggested this! LOL. I am feeling a little better, though things are still raw. I've talked about this...

Thank you so much. That was all I needed to hear! Just needed some validation... Spoke to my metamour on the phone and she was super supportive and validating, also. I still feel pretty bummed out and crushed, even though partner and I had a good long talk after he disclosed everything. Am...

Hi All, I have posted before semi-recently about struggles with my husband, his other partner, and my other partner. Without taking a whole long post to give the background about everything, I'll be short.. if people have questions, I can answer them. I just moved away for a new job. Husband...

Thanks to everyone for your replies, and sorry it took me a long time to return to respond. I definitely agree I need to address issues with husband. There has been more "drama" lately on that front, both involving his other relationship, her family, as well as my transition issues on the topic...

Galagirl, thanks for this very articulate message and advice. It was super helpful, actually, especially the part about reducing the things that are "sads" so it doesn't seem like it's pouring. I like this idea. Your suggestion about where BF is coming from is something I have thought about...

Thanks for commiserating with me!!! It made me feel very validated. I have felt like that since opening up... husband found a serious person right away and stopped going on other dates. I struggled more before I found someone, but my relationship is/was different.

I apologize if the title of this thread comes across in a dramatic way. I don't necessarily think I feel "abandoned," right now, but I do feel very emotionally fragile and have been having ups and downs peppered with insecurity about both my partners for at least the last month. When this...

The above replies are so great and helpful! I echo everything in them, here are my comments/thoughts... I initially thought I was going to be in more of a hierarchy when I started this and stay primaries with my partner (husband). However, the above scenario you mentioned sort of happened...

Thanks for all the support, guys!!

Taramafor, Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Sorry it took me awhile to respond, had to figure out what to say. H gets uncomfortable with saying things that are honest if they could be interpreted as criticisms or disappointments because he feels very uncomfortable with hurting people's...

Hi there, I am just getting around to reading more boards on the forum and just saw this one. Thank you so much for putting this out there and sharing your story. I cannot fully fathom everything you have endured, but what I did pick up from that post is all the self-awareness you have and how...

I wasn't sure if this should be posted here, or in the relationships section but here goes. Sometimes it can feel so isolating to be struggling with the emotions and experiences of poly and not have people to confide in who "get it," or understand. On the one hand, I am lucky enough to have...

Gemma, I wanted to chime in because something similar happened to me recently with being talked about behind my back. When you shared that experience I remembered how it felt for me - my meta and husband were talking about me, or rather, she was in an email. This never feels good. I can imagine...

I just had to chime in and say I loved dingedheart's tampon metaphor :D OP, it sounds like your other partner is very kind and compassionate. It is wonderful that they want to be there for you and is a sign of a healthy relationship. I am sorry you had to go through that breakup, it sounds like...

Hi 1234567, Your post was amazing.. thank you so much for saying all those things. You are right to suppose H is a beginning hinge. This is his first serious relationship since us opening up (and I'm also in my first serious one with B). I think there is a lot of learning at play here. He had a...

Good insight. I hadn't thought of that myself. And, you aren't being a wet blanket at all!! I would hope that it wouldn't impact their perception of poly, but if it was awkward and tense, how could it not. I feel very validated by all the support and feedback I've gotten here. I know there...

Hi Ninjagirl, My husband and I opened up a year and half ago or so. We started out by talking about it, listening to podcasts, reading/researching, and attending a conference. We do our own "separate" thing, and each have one other partner right now. I don't think I would ever want to be part...