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Not living past 30 and the high rate of death when hunting sabre toothed tigers contributed to this, I'm thinking. Also, add in being constantly exposed to the elements, such as a couple of ice ages, and now it's a party. Additionally, it is not "patriarchy" that contributed to this, but...

Firstly, thank you for these two posts. It's given DH and I something to discuss and reflect upon. IDK about anyone else in the room, however, in my head, I automatically went, "Por que no los dos?". WHY do I have to be one or the other? I am both, and neither at the same time. (This is meant...

Agreed. Although, I sincerely hope that OP can weather the storm in the mean time. And afterwards, her DH has some 'splainin' to do and repairing of the damage he's caused.

This, I think needs to be added to the "Most Skipped Steps To Polyamory". While I completely understand that folks might feel squeamish about focusing on anything negative, this is a hard reality and one that my DH and I have spoken about frequently.

I am so sorry to hear this. If you don't have any counseling appointments, I would recommend making one. Also take time for yourself and most importantly, make peace with yourself. Easier said than done, I know. I wish you peace in this phase of your journey. I know how difficult this path...

I completely agree with this assessment. And while I realize that forced consent may be a thing for some people, that absolutely would not fly with me. I also agree with going with YOUR feelings. Your feelings are not invalidated simply because you feel that this may not be for you. I have...

I think at this stage of the game, while the wife may be the husband's best friend, clearly the wife does not reciprocate that feeling. And with all due respect, one does not treat one's best friend in this manner.

All of this is spot on and really hits home the crux of the matter, imo.

I completely agree with this assessment. This whole thing doesn't pass the sniff test, if not outright smacking of being a set up from the get go.

With all due respect, I do not think this is even an option. And I am citing this sentence as Exhibit A: This sentence does not sound like someone who is going to be up for any sort of parlay with a marriage counselor. I could, however, be absolutely in the wrong about that.

Do you have any other friends or family that could make the trip? I know that sometimes going with people we are not in romantic relationships with is a different kind of fun and adventure that you may need right now.

Or even monkey branching her way into another relationship, prior to ending things Mind you, I hate saying that out loud, but I think @dingedheart has got it right. That......that was....completely unnecessary, imo. It's complete overkill designed to do one thing and one thing only. Make...

Yup

Well, that last sentence is very valuable information, although I can fully appreciate the difficulty in making it. Relationships of any type can be quite difficult to maintain, and IMO, this relationship style is the textbook definition of FAFO. I bid you peace in your journey and I sincerely...

Sad, but true

😂😂😂😂😅😅 Dude, you have WAY too high of an opinion of yourself.

While I think you probably have a legitimate beef about the criminalization of bigamy/polygamy, however using that to take the piss out of how people celebrate their marriage is nothing but sour grapes, imo. Also, the person bringing up charges of bigamy would have to actually prove that in a...

This sounds very positive and proactive! :)

Well, in all inherent fairness to the judge, they have to go by what the law says. And while judges in the past have gone off script, they pay a heavy, heavy price for doing so.

Respectfully, I disagree. I think marriage can be defined by those in it, however, they must do the work in order to make that happen. ETA the following: Marriage as a legal entity is defined per the state. But that certainly is not all that is marriage, and boiling down to nothing more than...