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I honestly have have no idea how you came to that conclusion. And saying the word fuck is not disrespectful regardless of context. With that said, I hope you get the help you need. Hopefully with a therapist given the complex nature of trauma. With that said, I wish you the best of luck.

I recall an experience that happened between Daisy and I. Daisy was attending a multi day festival with friends and I asked her who she would be sleeping with, my question was literal and her response was speculation, which of course I interpreted as literal since that was my frame of mind...

I was referring to your point about the disclosure of text messages.

Wouldn't the first manifestation of that destructive dynamic be the invasion of privacy? Once you open that door how far does it go?

What is your income ratio, if you do not mind disclosing?

Elayne, I think it is great that you are having very positive sexual experiences with someone. This situation is a good opportunity to learn more about yourself. For example, maybe non-monogamy is a relationship configuration that would work better for you and your current/future partners. And...

For example. If sharing a therapist prevented you from being completely honest during your sessions. It would be reasonable to then say that a shared therapist impairs your ability to get the most out of the therapy.

I think rational arguments can be made about sharing a therapist inhibiting your own therapy. Those arguments are yours to figure out and make. It is impossible for us to know from your post if you have legitimate concerns for your own therapy process, or if the feelings are out of a general...

Farce or not, if the wife is having sex with the unicorn that is some sort of non-manogomy.

This is the bit I find confusing. Is this sort of behavior typical in unicorn hunting?

My only advice would be to give your friend space and time to heal, and maintain consistency with your boundaries. There is no way to guarantee the longevity of a friendship, and the more complicated it becomes the harder it is to keep it from fracturing. Sex, money, cohabitation...

If by rules you mean laws, they vary based on your specific location.

It’s true that unicorn hunters are sometimes met with hostility and negative preconceptions. Such behavior even exists on this forum. Do keep in mind that no one person speaks for polyamory. Poly communities are full of people, and people are capable of treating one another poorly in any...

Did someone describe you as horrible and unethical? Where are those feelings coming from? Unicorn hunters are not horrible people. Unicorn hunters often have some naive ideas but that does not make them horrible people. A proposed physical partner would need to be attracted to you and your...

I sense where your coming from might be rooted in a bit of emotional codependency. It’s a typical accompaniment of the relationship escalator. I think it’s going to be difficult if you cannot maintain independence from the relationship. Consider taking a step back from the relationship...

I see the human mind as a great expanse, capable of being filled with love or hatred. I do not so much question ones capacity for hatred, rather the consequences to oneself and to others when hatred is chosen.

Your right, I apologize for the offense. I did state it with the best of intentions however agree that “amuse” was a poor choice of words.

The easiest way I can think of to avoid hierarchy completely would be to maintain absolute autonomy. To the point of maintaining independent lives as much as possible, including rejection of the idea of cohabitating. The more entanglement that happens the harder it would be to avoid hierarchy...

What about B? It’s his wedding too. Why is he tolerating this behavior from K? Not only that, but burdening you with it? If there is no communication between you and K, then, in my opinion, B is being a weak hinge by pushing this off on you. He should be standing up for what he wants and...

This in reality is probably why many poly people basically live as mono couples with side pieces. There is a line one crosses in degree of entanglement and cohabitation with more than one person where life becomes significantly more complicated.