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Was out of town last week, came back with Covid. ☠️ Symptoms aren't *too* bad, but I'm stuck at home and I'm bored. I might finally be getting sick of reading about other people's relationship struggles (e.g. here and on the poly subreddit); it's just the same, say, 23 problems, over and over...

"So we're not putting all the pressure on Alicia" I call foul on this. Alicia is choosing to maintain two intimate relationships with two different people at the same time. Aren't they? So all that pressure? That's the job she chose. It's her job now. That job is what polyamorous folks call...

Observation (mostly related to reading other people's anecdotes elsewhere): When you start treating dating like a gradual search for only the best relationships for you, instead of an urgent search for any relationship at all, you get a lot more selective about who you bother to date, and have a...

Had a first date tonight, it was lovely. It is extremely nice to meet other people who are similarly neurodivergent, polyamorous, kinky, etc; unconventional in ways similar to me. It feels good to see someone as they are, and feel seen in return. Happy. 😊

I continue healing, and processing, in the wake of breakups. Meanwhile, I am very gradually getting back into dating. I've gone back and forth: maybe I just want to be totally single for a while and see where life leads me? And that might be true. But the fact is, I want connection and I am not...

If you will allow a stranger to be frank, a "perfectly good" relationship would not be causing you this amount of distress. It does not sound like this guy will ever give you what you actually want. There are so many people in the world, and like 99.9% of them would love to have a monogamous...

I have thoughts about this, but I don't want to presume to put them in your blog thread. Would you like to hear what an outsider sees in this situation? Feel free to say no.

It's nice to hear this arrangement is working for you both in enjoying your partner's and metamour's connection with each other, and also having space for yourself. Also, I'm in both these pictures and I don't like it. :ROFLMAO:

Honest answer, stranger? No, you end the relationship over this very large fundamental incompatibility. See also: "I want kids." "I do not want kids." Or, "I want to move to Scotland for work." "My job, friends, and family are all here in Mexico."

Big King Theoden vibes.

Your attitude towards them is surprisingly cordial, considering. 😆

There are so, so, so many people — millions, literally, millions and millions of people — who are beautiful, amazing partners and who also want monogamous relationships. Please don't destroy yourself chasing this one person. It doesn't sound like she's for you.

You know, artistry aside, I am at least old enough and experienced enough to know this is as false as it is true. When my very first romantic relationship ended, I was absolutely shattered. But that was almost twenty years ago, and I never think about her anymore, except when comparisons like...

I can tell I'm slowly healing... very slowly. I did actually get back in touch with Maple, just to give a friends-level "here's what I've been up to, how about you?" update, and she replied in kind. I think, and we'll find out if I'm right, this actually helps my brain more than strict...

Not much to update here, because the process of grieving a relationship is boring to describe, read about, and—eventually—to experience. I do think I'm headed from "why did this have to end????!!!" to "ok, can I get over her please and move on with my li—no? Sigh, fine, I'll put on my moody...

Am definitely going back and forth on whether to continue the nascent dating I've had going on, given how incredibly crap I feel most of the time about this breakup. What's interesting to consider is something I've seen polyamorous people talk about before: if I was at the point where I had...

Every time I see someone on the polyamory subreddit ask, "Is this poly?" I have to restrain myself from replying, "or is this dancer?"

What the actual fuck. I am upgrading my opinion from "you should not be in a triad with Ginny" to "you should never speak to Ginny ever again, and Ginny should fall off a fucking cliff."

You are misinterpreting the situation due to a lack of details, but, I mean, that's on me for not really sharing the details. 😜 Long story short, she and I worked really well for the places we each were in our lives these last six months. But, for a variety of reasons, the relationship has run...

After giving it a lot of thought, I asked Maple for one more call to hear more about her decision to break up. We had that call last night. It was good—healing. I feel like I have closure. Now I can move on, and I know it'll take until I don't care so much if we stay friends or not for us to...