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For starters, leaving the desire to date couples aside: I do not think you should try to date Ginny and Bill. You work with them and are friends with them; and those relationships will all be jeopardized in the extremely likely scenario that your attempt to date them both goes badly.

As I once heard said in the context of job experience: the problem with hearing someone has "20 years of experience" is you don't know if they've had 20 years of experience or 1 year of experience, repeated 20 times...

Here's one internet stranger's opinion. It is somewhat merciless. 🖤 I'm assuming you, Adam, and Ethan have all enthusiastically consented to be in polyamorous relationships. That is, relationships where you can date, have sex, and fall in love with other people. Yes? Ok. If that is so, all...

Couple questions to consider, if not answer here (though more context might yield better advice): You said you're "trying this again". What happened when you tried it before? What does each of you hope to get out of polyamory? Why are each of you pursuing it?

Why do you suppose you feel crazy? What you described seems like an obvious and reasonable response. You do a thing, your partner reacts poorly. Someone else does the same thing, and your partner reacts well. I can't readily imagine a human being that wouldn't feel shitty about that. So...

I missed the part where you were at his house. Was she also there, or was she calling from elsewhere? If she was there... are you sure she didn't know y'all were there? Regardless, this is very obnoxious and I would probably not continue putting up with it, especially after only 3 months.

It's unfortunate Phil and Betty's relationship is apparently so enmeshed that he needs to play on-call emotional support to another adult, and honestly, Stranger, that does not bode well for his being a good partner for you. I think the bottom line is, you need to make it very clear to Phil...

Hi. I'm sorry, I can't get past this part yet: What kind of person—who doesn't have, like, a kid in the hospital—answers their phone in the middle of sex? 🤨

Had a second date with a new person—we seem to like each other and I reckon we'll keep seeing each other. She has a nesting partner and another partner, and it's interesting to hear about her experiences with polyamory and how it is or isn't working for her. I kissed her goodnight; it was a...

I appreciate the replies to my thread about becoming friends with exes, and other anecdotes and info on this topic I've been finding on the web. (Gen Zers feel free to ask me what the "web" is 😜) I am recognizing it will probably take me more than a month to get enough over my feels for Maple...

As I've been documenting in my blog thread, a partner recently broke up with me, and we both very much want to end up as friends. Traditionally, I haven't been able to stay friends with exes, for a variety of reasons—lack of interest or hurt feelings on one side or the other, unrequited...

So, my impulsivity won out and I texted Maple last night—but it was a text saying, roughly "I understand you have your reasons for not wanting to continue our relationship, but that you want to end up as friends. I do, too. As much as my brain wants to jump right in, I know we both need time...

Hey, welcome. To give folks more context: are you in a polyamorous relationship with River? Like, you and she are both free to build romantic and/or sexual relationships with other people in addition to your own? How long have you been in relationship with River? Why do you not get to see her...

(Since the symptoms haven't returned and I've been taking allergy meds, I'm assuming it is, in fact, seasonal allergies. 😤) I am gradually coming to terms with the fact that, regardless of Maple's reasons for breaking up, they are her reasons and don't really have that much to do with me. I am...

Thank you. Hoping it's merely seasonal allergies!

So I did go on a date with a new person last night, and it was very nice! Looking forward to seeing them again. Almost talked myself into contacting Maple today, but the better (wiser?) angels of my nature had me run this plan by a friend first. She rightly pointed out: way too soon. I'll...

The person I was going to meet for coffee tonight canceled, and I'm extremely fine with it. This is the second person I've been talking to who's needed to put off meeting up for at least a few weeks, but is interested in doing so in future—and that actually works great, because I just want to...

As my brain tumbles about the various stages of grief, I have spent a non-zero amount of time thinking stuff like this, when I need to feel angry for a little while instead of sad. I'll just say I strongly doubt it until shown otherwise. She expressed a desire to be friends in the future. I'd...

Thinking about compartmentalizing: I've made plans to meet several people for coffee for the first time next week. I didn't do this in response to being broken up with; the plans were underway. I think I'll keep those plans, and simply be forthcoming about what's going on in my life. My...

A lot of moving parts indeed! This sounds like a very stressful situation. I realize the ship has somewhat sailed, but I imagine it would be better for all parties involved if your wife's girlfriend had her own living space. I might have missed some details in the thread, but it sounds like she...