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Did your open marriage / DADT agreement include your husband also being able to see other people? Or was it just you, with him remaining monogamous? If he is involved with someone else, would you want/need him to end that relationship and return to a closed marriage with you? Just things to...

Lol... he woke up. We walked to lunch. He got a bunch of urgent work calls (hello Saturday???) and went somewhere to call people. Soooo it's just me and my boozy root beer float. Yay for alcohol ;) Oh the boy ... he's mid 40s but omg y'all he's 6'5"!!!! And he is a daily gym rat/runner like me...

I'm on vacation!!!! I'm also sick as hell, but i don't care, because vacation.i have been dismissing my crud as allergies - then, hmmm maybe it's a cold - now I'm pretty sure I either have a roaring sinus infection, or Ebola. But whatever. Just because I've had to sleep propped upright on...

I agree with Dagferi and PinkPig. It sounds like you're assuming the fun of NRE is a major factor in people choosing polyamory, and I think that's pretty uncommon. It happens, but there are tons of other reasons people live polyamorously. I'd also point out that you're imagining that each new...

This is what gets to me... I mean, anyone who hasn't been living in a box for the past ten years should be aware that women on dating sites don't respond positively to unsolicited dirty pictures. With 3 guys in the past week, this has happened while we were getting along great over chat, talking...

I am so fucking tired of online dating right now. If I run into one more guy who thinks the answer to "how is your day?" is "here is my dick" I'm going to lose it. I'm honestly happy to get dirty pics - from people I'm already sleeping with! But internet strangers? No. Please no. Between the...

While I'm sure a lot of newbies would certainly appreciate a section like this, I think it's VERY hard to predict who is "suitable for polyamory". People are complicated, relationships are complicated. My real concern, though, it how we would even begin to define success and failure. Is an...

I have never understood the whole idea that we have to be friends with our partner's friends. Polite, respectful, sure. But Andy had friends I find annoying/boring/whatever, and I don't feel compelled to spend time with them. I dunno, I feel like life is way too short to waste time on people...

Figure I'll update y'all on my dating misadventures - you know, so you can all appreciate your own lives more :p The guy I met last week? Googled him. He's not 52, he's 56. Yeah, I know, lots of people like about their age on okc. But 1) if you're going to lie in your profile, at least come...

Spork, I just wanted to say I feel you on the "tone policing" thing that's been showing up here lately. It's gotten to where I'm wary of commenting anywhere but the blog section. Seems like someone is always jumping in to say that certain kinds of feedback are unhelpful... Not any one in...

I don't think that makes you an asshole. I honestly don't think *feeling* a certain way ever makes anyone an asshole. If you were going around telling everyone that all mentally disabled people should be locked up, or expecting people to exclude the mentally disabled from things to accommodate...

(Raises hand) Three!!! For me, vaginal penetration is much better with 7-8" . Longer than that is superfluous. Shorter doesn't hit the right spots. I dunno why. Just how it is. The orgasms I have with longer ones are qualitatively different than with shorter ones, or from mouths/hands. On the...

I had a date with that Mr. Next Week guy... Hmmmm... He seems sweet, but no real sparks. I'm on the fence about a second date. Depends on if any of the other okc prospects pan out, I guess. Wow, my enthusiasm, huh :p Andy leaves today for a week of work travel, so I know I will go stir crazy...

I find this discussion fascinating even though it doesn't directly apply to me... I'm not poly enough to feel it's something I need anyone to know about me, or mono enough to be at all upset by the realization that my partner loves other people. But I did want to speak to this... I had NO...

Very true. I do this calculation of hours+stress vs money, and think, shit, the best balance of that was several promotions ago. But there's this other aspect for him. Not *power* exactly, but - status. Respect, recognition, prestige, those things. And the chance to do things his way... Being...

We did talk some last night. What happened right before I wrote that post was that I went for a run, got home at 7:30 and was sooooo excited to find Andy just getting home. I took the quickest shower ever and - he was passed out on the sofa in the family room when I was done :( So I ended up...

Frustrated tonight ... I never see Andy anymore. I mean, I see him - I see him working and I see him sleeping. That's it. And he doesn't do those things on any kind of a predictable schedule, either, I have no idea if I'll go for a run and come home to him asleep or on a conference call. I...

Yeah this is one situation where even I can't feel bad about ghosting :p It is shit like this that makes me hesitant about getting excited about guys too soon... Well, shit like this, and shit like going all gaga for guys like Daredevil who are guaranteed to make my life complicated. But I am...

Well THAT was interesting :cool: I got to the bar right on time, didn't see anybody who looked like the okc guy, so I texted to tell him I was there. He replied he's stuck in traffic. Ok, whatever, I said I'd grab a table in the patio and see him soon. Fifteen minutes later (!!!) he writes back...

I had never consciously thought about this before, but - I talk to myself in French ALL THE TIME. I grew up speaking it some with my parents, though their Quebecois was very different from the polished French I eventually studied in school, and my French is a messy mix of the two. These days I...