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I like this :) I'm getting better about the body side of things... Slowly but surely... I'm past feeling like I owe someone sex after x number of dates... I've managed to date at least a dozen guys without sleeping with them, or feeling bad about not sleeping with them. And I'm working on the...

Thanks guys - it does help to hear that I'm not the only one who needs a little time before getting invested in someone new. I hate turning dates into interviews - much prefer just letting the conversation go wherever - so sometimes it's a few dates before I learn even the basic stuff about...

I think I have figured out a big part of my dating confusion and frustration... In my head, there is a pretty big time window between having a first date and being in a relationship. No matter how attracted you are to someone, no matter how well you get along with them, it still takes time to...

I feel you on this! The few times I have contacted a guy first, it's been like he expected me to do ALL the work, set up dates, initiate texts, basically chase him. I think straight men get so few messages that when they do get one, they assume the woman is head over heels and will do anything...

Ok. An example, because I think I am not making any sense. Friend Situation I invited D along on my long weekend with Andy, then regretted doing that. I love her, but sometimes her anxiety and my anxiety feed off each other, and things that should be easy, like picking a restaurant, get...

Lately I wonder if I should go back to therapy. I haven't in years, because I mostly felt like life was stable-ish, and also after over a decade of therapy all together, I had the tools to manage my issues. And both my GP and my gynecologist are awesome about handling any mood issues that crop...

Apparently Andy's schedule is now ... Work 24 hours a day, every day. Like, get home at 9, eat dinner while answering emails, then calls until midnight. Because God forbid there is some overlooked Asian country where he doesn't have people to manage. When Steph got her big promotion a while back...

Do I need something life changing? Or even want it? No. Hell no. And yet ... Maybe anything worthwhile is life altering in some way. I should clarify that Daredevil himself is not "difficult". Nor is he asking me to do anything difficult. It's just that - he's an amazing person. Brilliant and...

Andy's new role at work is ... interesting... schedule-wise. He's either at the office until 9, or he comes home for dinner, sleeps two hours, and works from home until midnight. It's not a "new job, lots to catch up on" thing, either. It's a "half the people he deals with are in India" thing...

Congratulations to you and Rider!!!! I'm thrilled for you guys (and also insanely jealous of your trip ;) )

Second date with the new man today - I'm going to call him Daredevil. Because why not continue the Draper motif of naming guys after fictional characters with the same career. Also, Daredevil suits this guy, he lives life with no fear or regrets. I really like him. I mean, REALLY like him...

Despite my youthful assumptions about numbers... Slutty to me has always been more about *who* and *why* than *how many*. Like if I play the what-if game, if I'd been poly my whole life, or serially monogamous, and had 11 long term sexual relationships, that doesn't seem slutty at all. It's just...

I REALLY wish I could shake the weirdness in my brain around Clark. I feel so dirty and slutty for sleeping with him - why???? For fucks sake, we hung out for 3 months before getting naked. That's hardly sex crazed dirty slut behavior. But - I had sex, and it didn't turn into a long term...

Up at the lake tonight - this is turning into a gorgeous spring here in Texas. Everything everywhere is green. Andy got a promotion at work, sort of... now he has his own little fiefdom in the giant conglomerate just like Steph. They are already joking about trading problem children with each...

A couple of things I'm dealing with the past few days... I really regret inviting D along to my April trip with Andy. And I feel guilty for feeling that way. I love her... It's just... It's been years since we were together every day, and it feels different than it did back then. I kind of feel...

In true Claire fashion, I semi-accidentally invited my friend D along for my April getaway with Andy. It's Easter weekend, I thought for sure she'd have family stuff, but nope! She's coming! I am psyched to see her (she lives across the state) but also a little sad at missing one on one chill...

Yay on being cancer free!!!! And boo on flaky, needy, inconsiderate boys ... I hope once all the medical stuff is under control, you will have the time, energy, and luck to find a keeper :p

Feels like summer today!!! Not just the 80 degree sunny weather - It's still spring break for a lot of schools and so the cabins and campgrounds around our lake house are packed. I took the dogs hiking this morning, and after lunch I took the younger one down to the beach to chase tennis balls...

I did great maintaining my weight all year, and then the winter weather and the hot cocoa broke me, and I've gained 5 lbs since Christmas :( I'm at 131 now, I'd like to be back between 125-128. That's a 21.5-22 bmi for me, it's where I feel the best. Weirdly, as I get older, my extra pounds no...

Life has been busy but good... Last week was spring vacation in my work school district, which for us is not a break but means having ALL the kids ALL day. I'm still recovering. Andy and I booked a badly needed long weekend away in April, so I gotta bust my butt and get in bikini shape in the...