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As a person outside your relationship, here is what I have read from you. From the beginning of your relationship with Ponytail there has been nothing but a pattern of him getting upset. Go back and read your own posts. There has been nothing but a cycle of drama and hurt. Every few weeks or...

You are the one who will need to rip off the bandaid and break up with Ponytail. You two are NOT compatible. Why keep on hurting each other. Neither of you will be ever fully happy in this relationship.

In my country only the legally married partner or single domestic partner gets any benefits. Heck your spouse can't even cover you here if your employer offers health benefits. We all carry our own benefits to be honest because of this. If I was to lose my job then Butch would cover me since...

A narcissistic mono man can ruin your life too.

His penis size doesn't make him a good man or partner.

Be respectful of the wife and get the heck out of her space. She doesn't like you and has no safe space in her life. Get your own place. Your shared partner can travel between two different homes. I do it. And work a full time job.

I have met every single partner while out enjoying my life. Not through poly groups or etc. There are many many ways to meet people.

I went through similar situation with my oldest. When he turned 18 he decided he didn't want to go to school, have a curfew, or listen to my rules. Long story short I ended up taking his phone which I paid for and kicked him out of my house. I took the stance of you are an adult and if you want...

As the mother to 3 children whom I love dearly i will say this. Children are a lot of work and commitment. They are also a huge financial expense. They are huge emotional drain and add in if you have a child is special needs that adds to the work ten fold. A lot of monogamous marriages do not...

If all of these things bother you why are you dating a poly man to begin with. There are lots of monogamous men oit there to date.

You are a better person than me. I would have told her to go take a long walk off a short pier in not so nice terminology at the Diner. I would have noped right out of the rest of that drama permanently.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201403/is-constant-texting-good-or-bad-your-relationship Whiskers and I are from the generation who grew up without texting. So he may be like me texting is ok for quick communication but it is not good for serious communication. You...

You are your own worst enemy. My advice is STOP OVERTHINKING. When you find yourself starting find a distraction. Get involved in something that will require your undivided attention. Go play with your kids. Do a hobby. Listen to music and dance like a mad woman. I had sex with Butch on our...

Even when I was a single mom 20 years ago and monogamously dating, I had the rule no one I was dating met my child/ren until I was sure I was going to keep them in my life. Usually around 6 months into our relationship. I didn't want my child to get deeply attached to someone only to have them...

Let's see... Butch who I have been legally married to for 17 years is an A relationship. And Murf who I have stood in front of friends and family and made him my husband too 6 and a half years ago is also an A relationship. Neither of my husbands hold a higher place in my life that the other...

I stopped taking your survery when you asked how long my "commited" relationship is. I have TWO long committed relationships with two life partners. You do not have the option of multiple answers. BOTH my husbands are important to me. The survery is very couple privileged aka hierarchical. I do...

I still have that your heart skips a beat and or you grin stupidly when you think of them type love with both my husbands. I have been with Butch 17 years and Murf 6 and a half.

One thing I will add is if you upend your other relationships to pacify Ponytail he is probably going to fall apart everytime you try and be the authentic you. Your relationship with him has been a constant cycle of Ponytail is unhappy and melts down. Then you jump through hoops to pacify him...

You are never going to be able to meet Ponytails needs. He wants and apparently needs a Monogmaous relationship. He wants the white picket fence American dream and you cannot give him that. Love is not always enough. Sometimes we just have to let them go and not be selfish and keep them in a...

Unless you are looking to destroy your marriage adding more people to a relationship does as much damage as a tornado in a trailer park. Your marriage and relationship will never be the same once you start down this path. You cannot put the genie back in the bottle once you start.