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'Love' may not be a divisible thing. But time, attention, priority--these are. And we feel loved based on these things. If she's getting half his time but expected to be available all of her time, I understand exactly what she's saying, and she's right. She's getting half his time while he's...

Of course it's possible for someone who's poly to love. It is likely not possible, however, for a person who's poly and has a primary partner, to give the full relationship that most people are looking for. Does this poly person have a primary partner? What would your position in his life be...

If Byron (my XBF) saw this, he might think I wrote it. This is exactly why I broke up with him. His behavior in the time since I broke up has often made me wonder how much narcissism is going on in one or both of them. My feeling is: (warning, do NOT take this as a blanket statement about all...

I take your point that love and lifestyle are two different things. If your point is that the love a poly person feels is just as deep and real, I'll agree that's true for some. I absolutely believe Byron loved me more than he's ever loved anyone. But the question is what is that love worth...

When life gets this complex, it's time to decide if you really want to stay in situations and with people who make your life this complex. My life is much happier since walking away from people who require :tldr.

Do you have specific questions or difficulties you want to talk about? I originally came here because, like you, I was seeing a married poly man and had no one in 'real life' to talk to about it.

Apparently you do have secrets from each other. Keep in mind, having feelings and acting on feelings are two entirely different things. I think most married people develop attractions and feelings for other people. Most of them realize this is fairly normal and it doesn't mean they have to...

Yes, it's true in all relationships. But it's more true in poly as you have seen firsthand. It makes sense to me that you feel apprehension. Can you and your boyfriend talk about both getting rid of tinder and what your long term wishes with each other are?

And yet, everyone has made the same comment: the 'unicorn,' (notice we're not referring to her as the 'friend' but as the 'unicorn' which in itself tells us about what's important in this relationship) is allowed to have sexual relations with these two only in a threesome. Wife doesn't want sex...

"Unicorn" is going to feel, sooner or later, that she's being treated as a sex toy to spice up your relationship. And I can't think of a single way I could convince her that's not the case. Oh, well, as long as you and your wife are happy, who really cares if you treat another person like a sex...

Best of luck! Very cool artwork! Do you have a link to anything on how it's done?

Wow, your ex descends to new lows. Disgusting. Here's a question. Why would we assume an alien race would come to earth and think like us or share our world view? What if they showed up and thought Trump was great?

This is it exactly, and I agree, it's also happening in the BDSM community. I think the answer to that question depends on who you are. I read a book some time ago by a poly couple telling about their 20 years of experience. They seemed a little unsure why, in 20 years, they hadn't found...

There are certainly many unhappy monogamous marriages. I know people who have been monogamously married for over 50 years and I wouldn't want what they have. The difference for me is in the percentage. Ratio wise, I see far, far more happy, thriving and lasting monogamous marriages than happy...

Can you explain more clearly? Are you asking if people have successfully co-parented while keeping kids in the marital home, either with one or both parents living there, while said parents are married to each other, but seeing other people? I'm just trying to understand what you're asking.

My BF insisted this was the case, that happy people aren't posting on forums, and that every poly family he knows in real life is perfectly happy. The upshot, however, is: On further questions, he admitted he only knew two others and one of them was on the brink of divorce. In his honest...

Can you explain this part? You once 'settled down' with Roy and he with you. But now you'd each like to 'settle down with' other people...yet remain with each other? Once you've settled down with these new (theoretical) people, will you then look to play the field a third time, and settle down...

If you've done a lot of reading about polyamory, then you know a central tenet of polyamory is HONESTY. Cheating is not polyamory. What and how she feels? What and how she felt was...it was okay to lie to you. Go ahead and don't judge that if you like. But what that's going to get you is being...

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?p=412568#post412568 Some posts here really hit home. This is one of them. I don't say this in judgment, because when we love someone, we want them to stay. When we've been with someone a long time, it's very hard to let go, to lose them, to change...

Hi, Meera, sorry, I never saw this until now. Byron and I had a small business together. He kept finding 'business' reasons to contact me. He was doling out information to help me in that--and a reason to stay in touch. It was a question of do I accept help that could be the major breakthrough...