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If you can, please put in some paragraph breaks. This is very hard to read. I'm in a mono relationship, but have had poly leanings, so I'm not the best person to give advice. I feel not only for you, but also your boyfriend.

This X 100. I also found myself a mature teen dating guys who were waaay too old for me. I look back and think to myself, "what a creep!" I was 17 dating guys in their 30's and 40's. Not cool at all. Listen to your instincts. Just because this guy and his wife are older, does not mean they...

Just a quick question, Spork; did Q even APOLOGIZE for missing the bus, or THANK YOU for driving him to school? Inquiring minds want to know! LOL. I feel your pain. My oldest is sitting in jail right now for violating his probation. Things could definitely be worse!

I wouldn't call you delusional, but I don't think a reconciliation in any form is likely. Let this serve as a cautionary tale to you about triads. Maybe if you had had a more firm footing as a V, you would have stood a chance before taking the leap with the husband.

Not sure why you're asking for advice, when you're basically shooting down everything everyone is telling you.

I agree with the above a hundred times. It sounds as if YOU were the new shiny five years ago and that hapless man was dumped in favor of YOU. You just had no idea that was a pattern. I am a former NRE junkie, always making sure I had someone waiting in the wings before I fully disengaged...

Gunnar, you do NOT have to live with this guy. Full stop. It sounds as if you aren't advocating for yourself very well. Rather than tell her to not go to her boyfriend's house twice in seven hours for sex, tell her what YOU need to feel cherished by her. While I understand that you do not...

Embracing, it seemed as if you were ready to cut the cord attaching yourself to this guy. It's REALLY not going to get any better, and they are leaving. The only person who is going to advocate for you is you.

Well, she had already demonstrated that she was lying to him. No, snooping isn't a good thing, but I can see why he would start to feel unhinged, knowing she was lying, but not having the proof. There is nothing worse than knowing that something is a lie, but having your loved one try to tell...

I just read your comment in the other thread, about your husband being on a camping trip with this women. Does she NOW know about you? If not, that's certainly not ethical. She is a human being and deserves to know what is going on. A HUGE red flag.

Livingwithlove, honestly, you aren't expecting too MUCH; you're expecting too LITTLE. There is NO WAY your metamour should have moved in so soon. You have a right to have your own space, and you needed the time and physical space to process all this, to make sure this is what you really want...

Xevyon, I really feel for you! This was very cruel Even if this girl DOES overtly tell you she is interested in a romantic relationship with you, do you really want to engage with someone who plays these types of games?

While Chief may seem to be ok with this IN THEORY, reality is a whole other picture. If you have spent any time researching these boards, you will see that a partner who seems to be "ok" with the idea of poly is in no way "ok" with what actually winds up happening. Having Locke stay with you...

One would think you should be using this time to repair the relationship with your wife.

Yes, it is NOT about her flipping things and feeling "devastated." She stepped in it and she needs to own it. It is not okay for her to leave the child that both of you had with just YOU and not tell you where she is.

Arius, I was quoting you. You said (see above) that the ONLY reason to use pills is to get out of bed. If saying that what you wrote was irresponsible makes me a bully, then by all means label me that. I don't care. I am an oncology nurse, and every day I see people consumed by cancer who...

It sounds as if you are shaming people who need medications in order to function in everyday life. I am one of those people and I am DEEPLY offended. My guess is that you have NO medical or psychiatric degrees to back up such a claim. So, I would suggest to keep such "facts" to yourself.

THIS times a thousand. Also, this little scenario seems to be all about what YOU want.

I'm completely with you. Teenagers have all these audacious plan about what they would LIKE to do but, unless they are supremely talented or lucky, need to figure out what the job market is looking for. Our 15-year-old son wants to be a marine biologist. In Florida. The competition he would...

"No kissing" is a step too far. Sounds like a passive-aggressive control issue to me.