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I was happier believing this was fake. Not that I'm completely sold on this or anything, but I've read through the other posts, and she seems to be doing a lot more "work" than a troll. Since I'm a practicing mono, a lot of what I read here just sort of goes over my head, but I have found this...

It sounds like she is playing games.

Whelp; here we are then. Haven't heard from "her" in a couple of days. I must admit she stuck around longer than most.

Galagirl offers a good compromise.

I also would rather believe that most of this story is fiction. It's interesting how people behave.

As Lunabunny said, it's actually a VERY BAD idea to put nicknames on here that can be traced to any account. I wasn't commenting on the fact that you didn't give her an "identifiable" nickname; I was just pointing out that you only refer to your OSO's wife as "his wife" or "metamor." I can...

OP, don't you even CARE about what could possibly happen to the relationship between your wife and her sister? You evidently do not. This insanity of your wife trying to push her sister towards you is stomach-churning. However, you aren't going to listen to a word anyone says because this is...

This almost makes it sound as if the OP isn't "capable" of being in a poly relationship. I wouldn't word it that way, as there is an inference that she isn't "mature" enough to. If mono is her preference, that's fine. If she wants to find another poly relationship, that's fine too. Both...

I understand, but the thing is that you seem to have a prescribed "box" for this other person to have to fit herself into. Please do a lot more research about poly before you seek out another person. Another human being is not just an "addition" to your relationship. Before you get mad, that...

Luna, something you just pointed out really resonated with me. This villainous wife hasn't even been given a NAME in this Neverending mess. I learned not too long ago, I'm afraid, that feeling miserable over a person does NOT equal a more "true" love. Relationships that are THIS hard and lead...

This is a common issue. You guys are looking for a sub woman who is willing to ALWAYS be secondary. You haven't been treated very well yourself. Surely you don't want to be involved in treating someone else poorly? What would be in it for them?

I think giving yourself time to sort out your emotions and what you want out of a relationship(s) is a very good idea. You are displaying a lot of self-awareness, and you have not become "bitter" about other people; you just want to find out what works best for YOU. I have been mono partnered...

Your ex kind of reminds me of the ex of one of the regular bloggers here, Spork. I don't know how to link her, but she updates quite often in the blog section titled "The Story of Spork." No, the behaviors of your husband and hers don't exactly match, but they seem to have very similar...

Poly does NOT equal cheating. How many chances are you willing to give this guy? Know that ahead of time before you find yourself being a doormat. Remember your self-worth and self respect. Maybe poly IS for you, but maybe just not with THIS guy. He has done some pretty heinous stuff...

Ting, give your husband the respect by letting this be his "safe place." Just simply stop reading what is being written. Now he is going to have to worry about censoring himself, to not make YOU upset. That's not fair. We're a bunch of internet strangers, of course, but if him writing about...

Sage, I really don't understand why you are still in this relationship. Every other month, there is another post about how are you clearly being disrespected, but yet you stay? Surely you can find a healthier relationship, or would be better off on your own without someone constantly devaluing...

I hope there was a peaceful resolution, but I don't think that the relationship is salvageable. You appear to be a "true-blue" mono guy. Even IF your girlfriend consented to you having female casual relationships, I don't think that would make you happy. No relationship is a "failure," so...

While a OPP is generally frowned upon in poly circles, that is YOUR personal boundary. You are right; she changed the construct of the relationship after it had already started, and you are well within your rights to say that her having a relationship of any type with another man is a boundary...

What I have gathered from this thread is that you don't think your wife is capable of functioning on her own. If this IS true, than that needs to be fixed immediately. As long as she is dependent on you, there is a power imbalance and she is not really able to make decisions regarding your her...

NO. She CANNOT still live with you, even for "unrelated" reasons. You have an agenda. She absolutely needs to find her own place as soon as possible. Until then, you simply have to put this out of your mind. A "couple of days" is nowhere near enough time to get over a person you desire...