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So I had a video call with Pisces just now. Something he brought up that was enlightening. In my thread "Poly Mind, Mono Heart", where I say that I have not yet experienced being in love with two people at the same time, but if I end up with a second partner, I can then determine that. His fear...

I know I can't control his feelings. I just want to support him.

Hello lovely peeps! In my other thread (Poly Mind, Mono Heart), I mentioned that I currently have a partner (long-distance), Pisces, in an EMN situation, and that since March, I have been looking to form a second relationship here in my own city. That hasn't been successful so far, so about a...

You could be right - I likely had shifted my version of love for my husband, around 2014, a year before I knew about poly/ENM. I don't think I loved him as a friend or brother, otherwise I wouldn't have continued to have sexual intimacy with him. it was just a different sort of romantic love -...

It's so interesting and impish timing that you say all of this - I was thinking about this just this afternoon. I think you are right - I *am* still wondering if I truly want/need a second romantic relationship. My current partner, living on the mainland, and me on Vancouver Island - I recall...

Hm, yes, I get what you mean, but no, I don't define "love" and being "in love" the way you do. I love people in a non-romantic way (friends, family, etc), but if I love them romantically, it mostly is being "in love". I don't feel differently once that NRE is gone. I think the love I had for my...

Yes, I think you are right - it likely *is* too soon, though I've been looking on and off for a second relationship since 2017, when already in a relationship, so far, none have clicked just right. The closest I had was when I opened my marriage, and had both a husband and a boyfriend. But there...

Agreed. Though I don't jump into bed on a first date, even when I was completely single/monogamous. Just not my thing. I tend to move fairly slow, to take the time to get to know the other person, start to build attraction and trust. I'm rarely attracted enough on the first date to even kiss the...

It's true that's I've not been looking too long - since March? And it took six months to meet my current love. So yeah, I'm okay with it taking a while. I guess I just wondered if my many years of monogamy has trained me to believe that once I'm in love with one person, I can do...

Hello all! Long time lurker, first time poster. I have been in various ENM situations (including an opened marriage with five of us in a polycule) off and on since 2015. What the title of my thread is referring to is the idea of me wondering - If I feel I can be truly poly (in love with more...

Hello Roxy, I'm new here, but going through something similar, so wanted to share my thoughts. My situation is actually the opposite point of view - my metamour is feeling threatened by me, and also by her husband's other partner, so it's quite stressful for her right now. I am totally...