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Ebb and Flow An update on my week, now that I'm sitting quietly at home while my kiddo watches YouTube videos in the background, and MonkeyMan is driving RacingSnail to the airport. Long distance is hard. Sending my sweetie back to the other side of the country, two time zones away, is hard...

I've been poly both before and after having a kid, and while it certainly had a big impact on my life and relationships, it sure didn't stop me from being happily poly. Having extra adults in the household in that first year of parenting was, as Polyglamorous suggests above, incredibly helpful...

Wow, that sounds kind of amazing. The poly spaces in my area are not nearly so snuggly! I don't know if that's a standoffish New England thing, or just because our community is fairly small and we mostly go in for discussion groups rather than social get-togethers. FWIW, I have experienced...

Tomorrow my long distance love, RacingSnail, will be arriving for a week long visit. This will be the second time we've seen each other since we got (back)* together, the first time being two days we shared in April. I'm in such a swirl of emotion! We're in for so much this week--his first...

I agree with breathemusic that it is not weird to ask for help paying for childcare for dates. ^_^ On the topic of introducing sweeties to kids, I've always thought it was appropriate to introduce them right alongside all of my other adult friends, and then add more information later if it...

Of course, Ursa! The two that I'm aware of arrange their events through Meetup.com. Western Mass Poly People (https://www.meetup.com/Western-Mass-Poly-People/) and, for those who are part of the sub-set of poly folks who are female-identified and queer, Northampton Queer Poly Women and...

I had been wondering what the poly scene is like in CT... I attend some groups in western MA and we often get folks who drive up to our events from CT, possibly from a lack of more local support. But I expect that folks in southern CT would be more likely to travel south than north to find...

In relationship past, I was once involved in a 5-person household that was arranged basically as two linked “V”s… as a “W” maybe? Basically, there were three hinges and three Vs amongst the five of us. (MonkeyMan + me + Jester) (me + Jester + GreenLantern) (Jester + GreenLantern + Rockhound)...

I was just thinking about this topic! https://youtu.be/Bc6HloRYZGc https://youtu.be/ykw-X75LnAc

Thanks for the warm welcome! ☀️

Hi, everyone! Sunray here. I'm 38, bi/queer cis female, poly for about 14 years, living in Western Massachusetts. Currently the hinge in a V with MonkeyMan (35/M/cis/het/poly--in a relationship with me for about 12 years, married for 10 this summer) and long distance love RacingSnail...

Oh, I love your take on this, GalaGirl! Realizing that it's appropriate to draw the line in different places depending on life circumstances is brilliant, and you've explained the concept really well here.

A few books to start with A few fiction books with poly characters or relationships that I've enjoyed: The Fifth Sacred Thing by Starhawk Door Into Fire (also Door Into Shadow and Door Into Sunset) by Diane Duane Gentleman Jole and the Red Queen by Lois McMaster Bujold

Sorting out desire and satisfaction Just to speak to this piece for a second--this is something my nesting partner and I had to work through (and it took work!). It is possible that she is feeling pressure that doesn't come directly from you, but is implied by our wider culture. Isn't sex (and...

Herbs and Tea In this case, it was 2/3 anise hyssop, 1/3 peppermint, but I certainly vary it depending on my mood. Growing herbs for tea is a hobby of mine. I select for tastiness, rather than medicinal qualities. Right now I have... peppermint, spearmint, bee balm, anise hyssop, German...

Herbal iced tea... I went out in the garden this morning, gathered myself some anise hyssop and peppermint, steeped it in boiling water, and added ice. Very tasty, and naturally sweet. ^_^

Hi, friends! Sunray here. I'm 38, bi/queer cis female, poly for about 14 years, living in Western Massachusetts. Currently the hinge in a V with my husband of ten years and a long distance love (friends for 20 years, been dating for less than a year). This is my first poly relationship in a...

Like Waking Up Back into multiple relationships after a seven-year mono-hiatus, and it feels terrific. I'm glad I didn't rush things--taking those years to focus on having a kid under five in the house was valuable--but this is like waking up, like coming home, like rediscovering myself. I feel...