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Countdown: 4 months and a handful of days. RacingSnail continues to sort through his possessions. He mailed me cookies over spring break, and yesterday he received my gift to him: a pair of music mixes and a three page love letter. And he said the letter was warm, and sweet, and made him smile...

Dear Alluvion, I think that a dynamic where friendship or hanging out with metas is always required goes a little beyond kitchen table poly into some pretty unhealthy territory. It’s true that people who do that love to throw around the term ‘kitchen table poly’ (and, hey, when I lived in a...

Hi Noyse! I’m in my 40s and did indeed get married after embarking on poly. At the time (12 years ago) I had a long term female partner, Jester; she and I had a non-legally binding commitment ceremony for our tenth anniversary and threw a big reception. Then, a year later, I got legally married...

Welcome, Kyra! Glad you could join us here!

Just stopping by to say, I also have a low tolerance for emotional discord! That actually factored in when I made the decision to leave my partner of 13 years. (None of the fighting involved me directly, it was between my partner Jester and her other partner GreenLantern, but it was happening in...

Though it’s probably not the majority of people who practice polyamory, I know plenty who have nonsexual partners in their constellation of relationships and value them right alongside the sexual ones. That’s part of why under some circumstances polyamory can be a great fit for asexual folks...

Futures 1. I feel our future trembling against my skin, A shivering skein of possibilities that shift And melt, one into the next, Soapbubble and incandescent. Rainbow-slick and fiery, they’re tumbling through me, Keeping my eyes open to the blue-black Of my bedroom ceiling at three a.m. 2...

Five and a half months to go until I fly out to collect RacingSnail. Things have been going good locally. My most recent Queer Polyamorous Women’s tea and conversation group went spectacularly—we had quite a big crowd at 11 women! A mix of familiar faces and new, as usual. This coming weekend I...

So! RacingSnail and I are making tentative plans for me to fly out to his place when he’s all packed up to move here (end of August/first week of September-ish) and make the epic cross country road trip with him! Reasons this appeals to me: - Possibly the closest we’ll get to a honeymoon-type...

So, let’s see, a more substantive update.... MonkeyMan got back from his business trip, and is super busy with work (but at least I can be in the same room with him part of the time while he does it). We found a wonderful housemate for the season, and she’s even poly! She’s older, and has...

I’ve had the worst cold for almost a week... but in amongst it somewhere was RacingSnail’s and my second anniversary! Yay!

Hi Liberty Belle! I know I’m not the only person here with a MFM dynamic, so I hope you get some good feedback. My situation is a V, rather than a triad, as my fellas are both straight. One identifies as poly, the other as open-minded mono, but neither have partners other than me right now (or...

Welcome, LivingSimply! I think you’ll find this to be a supportive and engaging community. I encourage you to browse around some, and get a feel for all of the many different relationship configurations that fit under the ‘polyamory’ umbrella. It sounds like the first one you’ve heard of (like...

Thanks for sharing, Leetah. I appreciate the support. :)

Things are moving forward. Slowly. Right now, MonkeyMan and I are interviewing prospective housemates, looking for someone to fill in for the next six months or so until RacingSnail has wound up his affairs and comes to join us. And we’re letting the news out, one step at a time, to our friends...

Hi GeekonFleek! This is something that varies from person to person—there’s definitely no ‘poly standard’ about how to act when you have more than one partner present. If I were in your place, I’d definitely start a conversation with my partner, and find out why he was acting that way, and...

Has she explained what made her leave? Is it something that has been resolved? No matter how blissful she makes your lives, she needs to put in some work to rebuild trust. If you want to give her a chance to do that, that’s where your leap of faith lies... not in accepting her back without her...

RacingSnail said yes. He’s moving here sometime in 2019. It’s still not feeling real to me... we haven’t set a date, haven’t started making plans or discussing it in detail, and thanks to his ongoing depression, he framed it as ‘this seems like the better option’ rather than ‘living with you...

Both my guys under one roof. So satisfying. And so far, so good! I’m happy.

4 days and 9 hours until everything changes. In case I haven’t mentioned it lately, depression sucks a bag of dicks. RacingSnail is re-engaging with his life—he cut himself off from the video game he was using to cope. So now he feels sad, and tired. Numb. Small, and broken, and full of...