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Wondering how many folks here have a long term long distance relationship as part of their polycule. How long have you maintained that connection? How often do you see your long distance partner? How emotionally close do you feel to that person as opposed to someone you can connect with...

Dear Gracie, The first step towards turning your situation into a poly one (if that's what you want) would be to tell your guy about your girlfriend. Let him know that if he's going to step up and be a parent to your child, he can expect that child to have three parents. Because pretending you...

I've been poly for about 13 years now, and the only friends I have to come out to are new ones I make (did that once this summer when a mutual friend's relationship style came up naturally in conversation, and it went well). When it comes to family, I originally came out to my parents over...

Some days I am struck by how I contain multitudes. Who am I, as a child? As a parent? As MonkeyMan’s long term partner? As MightyCupcake’s BFF? As RacingSnail’s love? As a poet? As a person, all by myself? The more contexts I have, the more I can explore my own complexity. And gain new insights...

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Hello and welcome--always delightful to encounter a fellow poet!

10 Years! Expecting to be out of touch for the next two weeks, as I'm traveling to visit my family, and my computer access will be limited. But I just had to take a moment to squee over today being my tenth wedding anniversary with MonkeyMan. At the tail end of my family visit, my parents are...

That's a tough one, and exactly why I personally shy away from dating people who prefer a 'don't ask, don't tell' type arrangement. I like to meet my metas, maybe even make friends with them if we seem compatible. At a minimum, I would want to exchange emergency contact info, in case something...

And finally, Origin 6: Something Old, Something New So much for this taking me weeks to write! :D I guess that's what happens when I come down with a summer cold and get really bored! Anyway, here's what happened next.... Remember RacingSnail? Well. We had started to text sporadically in the...

I'd say I was open to the idea of multiple relationships long before I started having them. I started having them when I fell in love with a second person. Does that constitute 'stumbling into' poly? Or being intentional about it? Somewhere in between, I think. I'm not with the person that I...

Oh, I hear that! When a friend of mine moved into my house (at my invitation) a few months ago, I really struggled over sharing space in the refrigerator/pantry. It's funny how specific these territorial moments can be, isn't it? I hope that you find, as I did, that emotional-management skills...

That sounds pretty amazing, SweetDreams! What I wouldn't give for a bedroom of my own. :D What's your relationship with your husband's gf like? Does her moving in mean you'd end up seeing more of her than your husband, since he's away so much?

Origin 5: Family and Community After that first year of raising our kid with the Alliance all under one roof, the landlords sold the house we were renting out from under us. It happened that MonkeyMan and I had come into a little money around that time, so we decided to start house hunting with...

Origin 4: The Alliance In the aftermath of the Amoeba, three households formed. Rockhound and GreenLantern stayed a happily married couple and got one apartment. Jester struck out on her own, and after living with a succession of housemates, settled down with one of those outside connections...

Thanks, starlight1! I love writing, and it's a real treat to find a new audience. Hope you continue to enjoy! --sunray

Origin 3: The Amoeba Early 2005 was a tumultuous time. My relationship with MonkeyMan was deepening and developing in fits and starts (a fascinating saga that deserves a whole post of its own sometime). Jester and I were flirting with the notion of establishing a quad with GreenLantern and...

Origin: Part 2, Beginning at Poly One night in the summer of 2003, as I was eagerly anticipating a visit from my dear friend RacingSnail (and unbeknownst to him, hoping to add some ‘benefits’ to our longstanding friendship), I had a vivid dream. I dreamed that something terrible had happened to...

Thanks, BathedInSalt! :) Just to elaborate for a second, 'living vividly' means a lot more to me than just pursuing relationships that bring joy to my days, though certainly that is one of its aspects. It's more my whole philosophy of living mindfully and with great attention to everything...

There's something compelling about sharing (and reading) personal stories, and I feel like sharing mine with you here. I imagine that rewinding through twenty-odd years of history will take me several weeks or more, but be patient, my friends. I'll get us to the present day as quickly as may be...

Yes. I'm very satisfied with my poly journey. I've packed almost 30 years of lived relationships into 21.5 years of having relationships. It makes my experience richer. Denser. Full of more (heartache and growth and learning and joy). I've been able to stay emotionally intimate with people who...