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I luckily found one...he is now my life partner so yes, I know they are out there and I found one who was also open to forming a more primary relationship if it worked out that way (didn't have any other partners at the time, so I know those exist too!)

Yep. I'm right with ya there!

Inconsistent is hard. Talk to him and see if he can give you consistency. It can be frequent like once daily texting or infrequent like a date every other Thursday (or both). This doesn't mean you cant text more or see each other more frequently but it will fulfill a need to be consistent about...

This person shouldn't agree to be poly. This sounds like a poly bomb situation that should have been shut down without question. Nobody should get into poly because their partner suddenly wants to date others. Nope.

Poly isn't easy at all. Each partner has to be dedicated to it regardless of who is dating whom. Maybe she has lots of partners early on but nobody serious then he meets someone 2 years in and they fall madly in love. Unknown scenarios are hard and the work is hard. Both people need to...

Yep! Even worse the ones that go to sex quickly show their sexual knowledge card (porn knowledge, that is) by asking which porn fantasies he has that I do! Totally clueless that porn is entertainment. Unsolicited dick pics and requests for nudes are par for the course. It gets exhausting...

Sad but true depending on where you live. Community property states can be problematic too. That's why I fully support prenups. Take the power away from the judges and states and put it in the couples hands while they love each other.

This is what you should be concerned about. They just started and haven't really worked through things. It's an experiment. It could work if all of you put in the work, but it's unlikely. If you keep seeing them, I wouldn't get super involved, and I'd be relieved at the slow down in texts. Know...

Yes Most men complain of the financial cost of marriage and divorce. This is a fallacy. In current times it is the spouse that makes more. No. I described a dating app that has hundreds of likes for women and few for men. Hundreds of likes does not equate to lots of dates. It just means guys...

Just the conversation turning to sex is a big ick for me when chatting up a guy. If I feel like that's what he's interested in I'll bounce. I'm cool with discussing safety/risk profiles but beyond that... nope. Not until we are actually going there. I've had the conversation turn to sex within 5...

OMG! This is so true! My ex is not a "make a move " guy. He NEVER initiates sex yet he gets it on the first date almost every time, if not the second. He just loves talking to and getting to know women. He has great energy without that pushy masculinity. Women find that feeling safe and...

We need to break down patriarchy. It's harmful to both men and women. There's no redefining "traditional" male roles. That's what got us here in the first place. Stop trying to fill a "male" role and become a true partner. This is rather sexist. Marriage provides (in most states in the US) the...

Of course. When religion mixed a religious ceremony with the legal, it became that. You can still do the ceremony and commitment without the legal part. Anything is possible. People get married for various reasons. I'd argue it's not a great reason to get married though. Marriage isn't a...

There aren't any "rules of etiquette". Just ask. You should be having one on one dates with each that want to build a relationship with you. If they say group dates only then run.

If you want to boil it down to this specific question.....my personal thoughts on this... People marry because that has been the expectation of what you do when you find that special someone. It's a lovely romantic idea that rules many of our psyche and having a wedding with a declaration with...

I see marriage as a legal contract between two people and the state. It's not about love or commitment. You can choose to add those things to your relationship if you choose but they are not required. The legal contract, depending on where you live, gives all legal rights to assets, inheritance...

You can thank patriarchy for that. Yes, many women want a nuclear family with husband and kids, but the patriarchy is so strong at shaming women for even wanting sex, let alone multiple partners, that some can't even bring themselves to admit they want something else. This is slowly being broken...

There's a difference between supporting one another where you build community together and having your partner find or set you up on dates. I'm not sure what you mean by having one side open? Do you mean one person dating and the other isn't just because they haven't found anyone to date yet...

I never said that it restores trust but it can be a small step in starting to restore trust. Trust is not restored by an apology or any singular act. It's built by several acts of emotional bravery through honesty. Ex. Telling a hard truth that you know will probably hurt the other or being...

Was this written as intended? It means "if I can watch" is part of the equation.