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I don't talk poly with anyone who doesn't get it. It's not worth the hassle if people can't be happy for me or support me in being poly.

What a creative way to show that!

I'm not sure if this helps, but someone I dated, who was asexual, said he could have all the sex, no problem, but would get nothing from it. So the only time we would have sex is when I wanted it, knowing it held no meaning or pleasure for him. It was just an act. I'm not sure if everyone is...

I got on HRT. Specifically the estrogen ring and a progesterone IUD. This way I didn't have to take oral medication (or think about it other than once quarterly) and I have a clotting disorder so getting the meds this way has way less side effects and risks. It's been NOTHING like being on birth...

In my personal experience, I had a lousy sex life with my partner. He was not interested in sex with me. We had it maybe twice per year. We researched polyamory and BOTH agreed it was what we wanted. I found out very quickly that getting sex from others did not magically take away my desire, my...

To me, size doesn't matter unless it's too big. Anything over 7 inches is a big no to me. I prefer 5-6 inches. To me, shape matters. Certain penises stimulate me a ton, and others not so much, but it's NEVER had anything to do with size. I see penises as a compatibility issue, just like kissing...

I agree with GG. Your primary won't notice a difference in you because your unique tightness is part of your unique DNA makeup. Vagina size is as unique as penis size. Things always go back to what's normal for you unless there's an actual medical problem with your pelvic floor which usually...

The rule that you can't date others, and you being "primary" in a new relationship-- she used that label to make you feel special so she could impose her rules. Very manipulative. A primary partnership is earned over time... like marriage. It isn't handed out to brand-new partners.

In poly it's hard when you want "same" or "equal," because nothing in life works out that way. Most employers get most of our time. Some family get more than others, as do friends, and that also means partners. Try not to focus on that and instead focus on what it is you need to be happy. I...

It sounds to me that her boyfriend has an issue with her seeing others and in return you have the issue with her seeing him. In an attempt to control her, you want her to break up with her other partner. That's not cool. Imagine if she is getting the same crap from him? You have a right to ask...

It's time to enforce boundaries. You enforce boundaries you place on YOURSELF. this might look like, if my partner can't respect my quality time by getting off the phone and being ready for me at the agreed time, then partner doesn't get to spend that time with me. Leave and go do something...

Welcome! You talk a lot about what she says, what she thinks and how she feels. Where do you fit in here? Do you want this? It sounds like you are trying to let her decide how you feel by focusing on her needs, wants and thoughts.

I don't want to argue someone's right to decide this for themselves, and I mostly stay away and let people decide for themselves, but you asked, so I'll give my opinion. Definition: the practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the...

It sounds like you plan your time around what others are doing. I wouldn't do that. I would schedule intentional time with each partner. They then can plan their free time (with parents or without) outside of the scheduled time. How about every other weekend? Or Saturday with one, Sunday with...

Yeah, that's normal. Both feeling them and trying to suppress them. We are humans with emotions. To say we can only feel emotions for one person is absurd. You can feel anger toward many just as you can feel love. Society says we should only love one person, which is just wrong. The deal with...

I'd disagree. But then, I see marriage as a legal contract between two people and the state. It does not require a romantic relationship. If the two people are happy in that legal contract then the marriage goes on happily. That can be for financial, medical, immigration or a bunch of other...

Coming from a poly perspective as well as kink perspective... I'm not trans and cannot speak to that, but many people may feel less than when they cannot fulfill their partner's desires. IMO it has NOTHING to do with gender. We are all individuals with our own likes and dislikes. Please don't...

Of course, but you have to have different expectations in the beginning. Expect to be treated with respect. Expect that they will end things once they figure out that you aren't a good match, instead of stringing you along and wasting your time. In the beginning, it's about getting to know one...

First, I would ask the obvious: did the people you date say they were looking for long-term relationships? If so, then they just weren't compatible with you for some reason. It takes time to get to know if a person is long-term compatible. This means you might date many short term until you find...

Joegkayak, keep in mind mono/poly describes when one partner chooses not to have other partners, but the other has more than one partner. Both people in this relationship are practicing polyamory, regardless of whether they are dating others or not.