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This was the mistake. You should have been poly from the beginning. It's easier to make that transition when you don't know the person and as your relationship grows. It's easier to grow while dating, than being mono and opening up later. Now you are asking him to change your entire...

I'm going to be a bit harsh, but I think you need to hear it. You don't have to agree with me, but if it makes you think, then I did my job. If you are feeling a lack of emotional connection from him, why are you still together? It sounds like you want poly to avoid breaking up. You want to...

My nesting partner (NP) and I went through this with family, as well. His dad couldn't see why we would still live together and not just divorce and finalize that split. His mom understood the costs involved and got it immediately. We are not romantic or sexual, and are more like roommates and...

Well, that's not okay. He should have told you he couldn't make that day or put off the abortion until after the party. It is chemical so she could wait a couple days to take the pills. I would be angry about this, as well. This is her private health info that doesn't directly affect you in any...

I liked that I could have open ended questions and could talk about each of my relationships. Most poly studies focus on one relationship and that is counter productive.

I love blowjobs but yeah, semen makes me gag. I learned to spit. I discuss this with partners and ask if they have a preference where. Other options are finish with a hand once they start orgasming. Some love it spit back on them others keep a towel nearby or I'll hit the bathroom sink where I...

I grew up a child of divorce and remarriage so Christmas was busy. Christmas Eve with dads side. Christmas morning with mom step dad and step brother. Then at 9 we headed to step family for breakfast and Xmas day then about 2pm we transferred to moms family for dinner. I have no issues working...

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I agree with this. In the end, a relationship is working or it's not. People break up for many reasons. Sometimes those reasons suck and sometimes you don't even get a reason why. In the end, the hinge will choose what's best for them and they have to live with their choices. That being said...

Since you are LD, maybe you can plan occasional weekends with them? Start easy with monthly. See how it goes and slowly add weekends if it's going okay. Even that won't prepare you all for living together. It's very different being a guest vs actually being your home. But visiting can show any...

The difficulty I see from my perspective, others may disagree with me, if I was to date you, with your limited time, you wouldn't get a deep relationship with me, it would only be casual, as I need time to bond, get to know you and fall in love. Maybe those things could happen, but it would take...

Why is this? Are you using your partner to manage your thoughts? Wouldn't it be better to learn to manage your own thoughts? I had to do that, and I found a great podcast called UnF*ck Your Brain. Start with UFYB episode 1 (not pre-UFYB). I binged that for 6 months, and the repetition helped it...

I used to be an avid texter. My LP is not. He texted in the beginning when we were getting to know each other, but once we met in person it really stopped. I would get upset that he couldn't return texts in a timely manner, at some point in the same day. When the texts were returned it was no...

It's amazing how parents get stuck on this. In a mono relationship I can be victimized, abused verbally, emotionally and physically. Most relationships don't work out in the long run and people get hurt all the time. Hell, I get hurt by the same parent that doesn't want me to be hurt! Being hurt...

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For me, if I was in this situation, the hardest part would be acting platonic. I'm so used to touching and being close to my partners...even how I look at them would be obvious. I don't envy your position. I hope you do enjoy the event. I think it will be a learning experience for both of you...

This is a very common thing. We hear some words and then create a story in our heads about that thing. It's a problem when there's a lack of trust because you are more apt to believe the story in your head that ties to emotions that reinforce that story (almost always a negative one) than...

It sounds like there are two themes right now. Going to this work function as his date, which it sounds like you two are going to talk about in depth. Good! That's what I would recommend. The second theme you are worried about is their relationship and your possible impact on it. For this I'd...

People tend to project. She hid this from you so she thinks you are hiding from her. She needs to look at her own actions and see how THAT is the truth of the situation. I know my values and my integrity and so do my partners. If they ever questioned me unreasonably, my first thought would be...

This!!! ☝️☝️☝️☝️ Spot on. If Wife is contacting friend and it makes Friend uncomfortable, Friend can block Wife. There's no reason for them to be talking. You say she is just a good friend and that's all you want (maybe for now), then so be it. Wife needs to trust YOU, not Friend. If you are...