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Did you talk about that? I don't think she's cuter or something, but sometimes when there is a problem it's perceived as a mutual breach of trust. I don't want to be unnecessarily negative, but he may well be insecure around you (because he got a scolding) or reconsidering the relationship...

It's a big jump from being monogamous to your partner having sex with another in the very same house/flat. Have you been thinking how to make enough privacy, so that they can have intimacy and you don't have to listen or deal with people running from the bedroom to the shower etc.? Did you...

Well, thank you too :) Your agreements about dealing with jealousy and couple time sound good, as long as they work for everyone. It sounds like your bf can be consistent about the time he promised the majority of time, which is good, and you and your metamours are good at respecting each...

That one is actually a great question :O Do you think your husband also regrets not having that kind of couple time?

She thinks caring for a 9 year old is easier than for a baby. I guess that's usually true, but if you mean it doesn't need to be for a special needs kid, you're probably right.

Yeah, I just think people looking for tools to deal with jealousy are unlikely to bump into episode 394 O:)

Adding to Meera's question, do you live together? Personally I think making some better agreements about time spent together all three, and maybe limiting that time, may help, but we don't know much about the situation yet.

I'm listening to the podcast and it seems nice and structured. It's not jealousy specific, but it's a huge list of emotional regulation techniques. @silver-genie Thanks. @kdt26417 Would you consider adding this to your great collection of links?

SMP?

Why? Where do you get that impression? I see nowhere in greenapples writing that this is just a fwb, not a poly relationship. We have no idea if their partner is "in love". Since they identify as poly, not open, this would imply love is an accepted option. "Romantically closed, sexually open" is...

I think you could go forward rebuilding trust by trying some kind of light kink that has always been pleasant and non-problematic for you. See how that goes. Find your D/s (and sexual?) relationship again, step by step. Keep threesomes a temporary no until you feel on solid ground in everything...

I can relate 😅, and thank you for writing this out so openly. Kissing and sex (exchange of bodily fluids basically) are not something I warm up to easily. It may be part of the reason why I stay monogamish. I have enjoyed attraction, touch, kink, even falling in love with other men during my...

I hear you. Parents have a hard job. It's one of the things I'm afraid about regarding parenthood... little time for focused, fun activities. Is it really not solvable? Were you able to express this to your husband? Maybe you can aim at at doing these things at least now and then and always...

Your wife is being kind. It seems like you're looking for some hidden motives where there may be none. I think you could say no to her suggestion if you don't feel it's appropriate or simply not what you want.

You have her living with you already, so the financial help (rent) and practical help (taking turns watching kids...) is already available. So what is the reason to take this sexual? or make this a "relationship"? Is it because they fell in love? Are you hoping that a "relationship" status will...

Well I understand. In case of boundary breach it matters a lot what happens after. How did your bf react once he understood he broke your boundary? He did understand that, right? You said it's been a few months since, did you talk about the situation? Argue? Attempted any repairs?

Oh, I'm so sorry this happened to you :( This is definitely a breach of trust :( To get the bigger picture, what were your poly agreements before the accident? Did you both have other partners, were you dating separately? Is your partner also your dom? Do you explore D/s stuff together?

Ok, again: WHY do you want to make this poly? Are they in love? Do you like your friend so much you want to make her family forever? What are the reasons to choose a polygamous (because you would not be dating other men) arrangement over just having a platonic close friend? Nothing physical has...

Kevin, I have to disagree. They are poly, Orangecat has a wife. There's no moral right to demand her new partner stays monogamous for a certain period of time. It's a request her partner can grant or not. And it's not a compromise.

I think if you are already in a committed relationship of 10 years and you are dating someone who's effectively your secondary, it would be quite unfair not to let them date. But, maybe this isn't about fairness at all. If you somehow feel this is too early and they don't, this could reveal a...