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Sorry, I may have missed something subtle. If B has feelings for J, does J have feelings for B? If so, nothing wrong with a triad that doesn't involve threesomes. Just thinking it may be hard to limit other people's relationships, though you can ask them to consider going slower to give you...

Hey Dimensionless, This sounds like a really shitty time for you. It sounds like your relationship is not providing you with the emotional and sexual needs that most people would want in a relationship. Many people on this forum may advocate a separation given the introduction you gave us...

Try some tasty lettuce. :) At least it's got some crunch to it. Has the potential to fill you up too coz of its high fibre content.

Hi GreenHat, On the offchance you haven't come accross it before, here is Franklin Veaux's proposed secondary bill of rights. If there's love between you and he, and a commitment to make things better, then things can change. I tend to recommend reconcilitation over breakup but that's just my...

Hey Salt, The pain of rejection is always hard. But BlueEyes has been giving subtle signs like this for a while now. I wonder what his views of relationships are. In particular, did he want to ride the escalator to the top with you, monogamously? If so, that obviously wouldn't work. Don't let...

You bring up an interesting topic, Ravenscroft. I'm still really surprised we don't have any French people on the forums. Common thought in my social circles is that they're as close to polyamory as any society on earth is. There really should be more French who identify as polyamorists and I...

Hi there LBC, Firstly, a warm welcome to the forums. I'm relatively new here myself but I've found that most of the forum members here are really quite experienced and often have very good insight into situations. I'm hearing you say that while you agree with the philosophy of polyamory...

Hi, Welcome to the forums. What a rough couple of years it has been for you. You write beautifully well, and what a unique story you are sharing. There are many examples of other triads here on the forum you can search for. If you have specific relationship questions, feel free to post them...

I agree with Al, One view is that the NRE from the new relationship spills over into your old relationship. Another view is that you're just generally happier and with more sex on your mind, so already turned on and ready to go. A third view is that your old relationship enters a version 2, so...

I have a lot of respect for Rod. Sounds like an amazing man I would love to meet and learn from. I am really curious as to how he handles his jealousy. Not saying there is and certainly not meaning to insult, but I'm really curious what Rod feels he gets from this other than your happiness. Is...

Welcome to the forums. What an exciting and (potentially) confusing time for you. How is your boyfriend in all this. I take it you and he have discussed polyamory before?

You blame everything on monogamism. ;)

Hi Julie Sorry for the pain. That sounds like a god-awful crappy day. I'd like to think that if you can see the negative aspect of your sister in law, then others can to. While it's disheartening to have anyone speak ill of us, and even more so to speak ill of us to someone we're crushing on...

They're not weird. They're part of the transition away from monogamy. Take your time. Don't rush it. You're good. :)

Dear Elle, These have been an awful few months for you. You have enough on your plate already. Freckles should not have to be your problem. You can't control her, so don't let her control your emotions. Wishing you and Steel better times, Shaya

Hi KupKakes, Love the name. Welcome to the forums. :)

Hey Squixy, Sorry for the misunderstanding. I'm hearing you say that you would like advice on moving to accept the relationship structure of a polyamorous V when you started the relationship feeling that the deal was triads. I'm also hearing a second, more important question which is about...

Welcome to the forums, DesertFlower. :)

Ravenscroft may be right. This long almost daily contact with a romantic other who has been vetoed twice and is now being semi-unvetoed sounds unhealthy for your relationship and for your mental well being. What has Cindy been doing with herself all this time? Has she been in a committed...

I think the quiz is useful because it focusses on a very specfic aspect of relationshipping that I currently feel is actually more important than I had previously realised. I mean, really, think about it. What wears us down emotionally? Is it the actual fight? Is it the hours or days of negative...