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Dear Castava, This difference might be due to cultural or religious differences, as I discussed on your intro thread. I have friends who belong to some small christian denomination who decided to marry 2 weeks after dating. Granted their dating pool was very small (both belonging to the same...

With no medical knowledge whatsoever, Tinwen, could the pain you're describing be linked to anxiety? Grief is the wrong word, but anxiety can sometimes be overwhelming to the point of similarity with grief. Don't know if you can relate. Hope you get better soon. Shaya

Hi Castava, Once again, sorry for the hard road in life you have been forced to go through. Mixing of cultures often results in a clash of ideals and values that can be hard to resolve. I'm sure if you were to go live amongst those of his culture, they would view you in a strange light as well...

Hi, Welcome to the forums. I'm relatively new to poly myself but I've found the advice of the more senior members on this forum to be insightful and useful. One thing I've noticed in my short time here is that unicorn hunting seems to be frowned upon. I haven't really been looking this up...

I have no idea what the stat curves are, but that's an interesting thought. My guess is that it does peter out the way you suggested. Hey BathedInSalt, we've derailed your blog. Feel free to hit the exclamation mark in the top right corner of our posts to delete them if you want. This is your...

Hi Miss Pan, Welcome to the forums. You'll find a lot of good information here on healthy poly relationships. Your intro story makes me feel so sad. You sound like you've been through hell and back and your heaven is mixed in with hell. It sounds awful and I hope you manage to find your peace...

Hi, Welcome to the forums. I wish you had come to us during happier times. You've received a lot of advice to break up and it may not be what you want to hear. Maybe it's easier to hear this kind of advice from people you know and trust. To me, his lack of care towards your health is a red...

Here's one where the husband in a marriage admitted to bisexual tendencies, so they opened to a beautiful triad that lasted 6 years, ending with boundary crossing by the husband and jealousy issues. Children seem to have suffered from the fallout. The remaining 2 in the triad choose monogamy for...

It's people like you who make up for people like me. ;)

I'd heard of this law. Didn't know it still existed. For those too lazy to click the link, Alienation of affection allows (amongst other things) one spouse member to legally sue the counsellor if the counsellor suggests divorce.

Dear Castava, My condolences for the hard road your life seems to have taken you. For what it's worth, I think you have incredible self resilience and a strong ethic. You may be surprised to hear, but there are quite a few monogamous people on this forum, myself amongst them. Most of us are...

Hi Jules, Thank you for coming to the forums. I hope you find them useful. I believe you are thinking on the right track. I'm sure coming to terms with allowing your wife a relationship with other men must have been difficult. You may want to look at Al99's intro story because it shares...

I saw that quote amongst my so-called 'research' when I first created this thread. The recentness of bestiality laws struck me as most surprising.

Hi. You won't upset anyone here. Very brave of you to post so openly but you won't get any negative reactions here about being trans, bisexual or polyamorous. We're pretty open to most forms of consensual sex. I say most since I recently identified a few forms of consensual sex that many would...

Hi Salt, I'm glad if any of what I've said helps. Sorry if I got a few off mark, but it's probably to be expected given the impersonal nature of the internet, and if your husband and J are saying "you're good", then that's all that matters.:) Regarding your comment on "theorizing all day"...

You should turn yourself in to the authorities, Vince. ;)

Ah, GalaGirl, you crack me up. Go with boyfriend/girlfriend. Or if you're not out about polyamory yet, go with friend.:)

Maybe skype or coffee on the weekend? You mentioned speakerphone? Others have done a 3-some in bed, but I wouldn't recommend that. :eek:

Hi There, DingedHeart has it right, I think. You entered this relationship on the promise of monogamy and for him to remain emotionally and sexually exclusive to you despite his bisexuality. If the relationship dynamics are rapidly changing now, let's see what relationship version 2.0 is like...

My wife found this to be one of the most useful concepts of poly as well. Suddenly, she didn't have to feel guilty about feelings for other men. In addition, poly gave her a way in which to ethically manage these feelings that monogamy would insist you sweep under the rug. Given we're still...