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My interpretation is that she's assuming that the first-person accounts are accurate *as perceived*. For (a very poor and lightweight) example, if someone made a joke in good faith that offended me, I might find them to be an "x"ist asshole (depending on the kind of joke). If this was just a...

She wrote "The Polyamorists Next Door" and has had a number of articles on Psychology Today.

Wow. Fantastic writeup, and I hope this is much better received than the Quora answer that was given by another member of Franklin's pod. Her academic critique hits some of the points that bothered me: the leading questions and "non-journalism" of it. I hadn't even considered the lack of...

Does the wax tend to be drying? My younger daughter has eczema, and when her skin dries out, it tends to flare up more. Also, if there are new (to her) scents or extracts/oils in the candles, those could be irritants as well. Just a wild pluck out of the air, but figured I'd ask the question...

It's funny to me that I really *get* his tone in his writing - he writes like an engineer. So many other people find his voice arrogant or brusque, but you're taught to convey the facts and your purpose concisely and cleanly, maybe with a bit of flavor so it's not horribly dry (although "flavor"...

I'm more with you than against you on this - I think some of the tactics used (as alleged) were emotionally abusive. Again, the guilt, the love-bombing/blowing-up cycle. I don't remember evidence of gaslighting in the stories - I think there's more triangulation than gaslighting, but...

I had the same initial feeling about the financial abuse cases. When I've seen it, it's been financial control that makes the victim dependent upon the abuser: they aren't allowed to make their own money, aren't allowed a vehicle, aren't allowed to spend any money outside of what's approved...

I think Louisa was the one putting the stories together and doing the edits, not Eve. That said, hey pod? Get rid of Ruby's story. It really, REALLY hurts your credibility when you do the same things you're trying to stop FV from doing: appropriating someone's story to support your point of...

Again, this is probably a moot point, but depending on the state, if the BF stayed long enough, he could be considered a tenant, which would require you to levy formal eviction proceedings in order to get him out. I also wouldn't trust him in my house as far as I could throw him, and agree with...

Chops' other partners aren't really people I'd be good friends with otherwise... they'd be more acquaintances or "light" friendships (like, I'd hang out in a group with them, but wouldn't pull together any one-on-one time). I know the two of them (Xena and Curls) get together on a somewhat...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transformative_justice This gets a little fuzzy. Or a lot fuzzy. It sounds like the goal here is a root-cause analysis followed up with education. It also sounds like transformative justice can end with either side not agreeing on what actually happened, but at...

I've had similar questions from friends as well... it seems when I use the word "poly," it conjures up images of group sex and everyone in the same big cuddle puddle. I tend not to use that particular word and it gets the point across a little better. Sometimes. The latest comment I got was...

Of course. Some of these things can be abusive, or can be evidence of a bad relationship or bad communication (or just plain old not understanding each other, like misrepresenting someone else's experiences, for example). I think Franklin is a TERRIBLE interpreter of what "Celeste's" needs and...

Lots of these accusations sound like emotional manipulation: the financial stuff, the triangulation/gaslighting, redirection/deflection, etc. My ex-husband was great at pushing my guilt buttons, for example, to manipulate me into being the person he thought I should be. I can understand having...

A document was released after Franklin's pod contacted the survivor pod. TBH, I only just found it today: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Jhk7nlq71dzRUsQKxlem35a40r2r6Pzz/view I would definitely lump some of these accusations in the "abuse" column, even though they're not as specific as many...

I don't necessarily believe the same people accusing FV of abuse are committing tax fraud, although knowing his SSN would certainly make this easier. This may be some of the damage done (by others wanting to take down a tarnished guru) as a result of the allegation. The damage that was claimed...

There's no evidence that this is related, but it seems as though someone's finding another way to damage FV: https://twitter.com/franklinveaux/status/1116831632676114432

Lol. Chops hasn't had mutton chops in a while now, and Dancegirl hasn't taken dance classes in a few years. If anything, maybe it offers more anonymity. ;)

A terrifying blast from the past... HI, I'M CLIPPY! YOUR OFFICE ASSISTANT!

Agreed. Given Franklin's long-distance nature of many of his relationships, it doesn't strike me as out of the question that two people could get their wires crossed about whether they broke up or just sort of ghosted/drifted apart. Especially if they're not communicating honestly, are making...