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Hmm that is interesting Xbem. Not least, to me, for the fact that you have only been together a very short time. Was the idea of being with other people something that was there right at the beginning for you two? I look forward to reading how you get on and knowing more about you.

Welcome, look forward to reading your posts.

Hi Sweetamy, I am new too and new to this whole thing. Your enthusiasm is kind of infectious. Hope it works out for you. Welcome!:D

I got into this in a different way. New and strange I grant you, I haven't felt the wonderful part yet. But welcome. :D

Hi 3rd, I find myself very much hoping this works out for you. I think these relationships could work fine. The thing that I think may be a big step (especially for his wife) is moving in together. I hope you can work it all out. Good luck.

You could ask him straight out whether he likes PDA . I suspect he may like it but doesn't know how to deal with it yet because of his other issues. Depending on what he answers you can get him to say what level of touching he is comfortable with and start off from there?

This thread is very interesting to me re: the way different people deal with hurt feelings. I haven't got anything constructive to offer but this was a great little nugget for me. I can use this. Thank you. :D

Same as what everybody else is saying, this is NOT polyamory, because you didn't know about it beforehand.

ha you found me. Yes that makes sad reading.

Lemondrop, I apologise If I have upset you or anybody else. I was just trying to say that such a ceremony would not have any meaning for US.

What I meant is that when you commit to somebody, the whole idea is that you will stick with them through thick and thin, no matter how your circumstances change. It is how we develop as human beings, to stick with someone when bad times come, rather than cut and run. We don't have control over...

This is just from a man's point of view. I think you are right. Your husband isn't on the same page with you at all yet. This may sound crude, but it sounds like he needs to go out and get himself laid to get his confidence back. Then he can feel on a more equal footing with you in the...

Thanks for the info. Redpepper. I don't think handfasting is for us. In our minds, marriage is kind of about commitment AGAINST change, that our human will is stronger than circumstances or going with the flow. I know my wife would not be impressed with a Pagan ceremony. If she cannot legally...

Ah glad you managed to sort things out with both of them LMBL. Yes that other forum was really something wasn't it? My wife read the first load of reponses after I had been on it bout a week, that was about the second week in of our arrangement. She said "You really shouldn't be looking at this...

Hi LMBL, what is that?

Hi MsKitty and Laughingman. I am new here myself. Interested to see how it happens for you and best of luck.

Well I never knew... I just been reading this thread.... It turns out we are Polywogs and my wife is a Hinge. :D

That seems fair enough, Magdlyn. Our case was kinda different. My wife fell in love with a guy, but did not have a physical affair, because she felt so guilty about hurting me. (We'd also been together 20 years with no infidelity.) She really was torn apart mentally and emotionally. So giving...

New Relationship Energy Hi, yet another thread from me. I read a lot on here about NRE. I wonder how long it lasts. It does seem to be responsible for a lot of problems in itself, causing lots of bad new feelings for a mono partner when their partner is in the grip of NRE. If a poly...

Yesterday, during an argument, I referred to the other guy as my wife's "lover." She did not like that at all. She made a point that he is NOT her lover. This is NOT an affair. We've always agreed on that. I am her HUSBAND and he is her OTHER HUSBAND. She very much identifies with the polyandry...