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Since this is my blog, I can complain about things that are happening elsewhere on this forum, right? I'm just venting, not looking for responses. First, I want to say that I have felt nothing but welcomed here from the beginning. Granted, I haven't started any threads, and I'm not in crisis...

Wow, Reverie, I'm happy for you and Rider, to have gotten past this Claire situation and to once again have a future together. I know there was a lot of disagreement about this sentiment in the thread you started about being liked by metamours, but I am 100% in agreement. I could never do poly...

Break a leg, Reverie -- your outfit sounds hot and I know you're going to be great. Nobody's going to wander away sadly. Even if you're not Emmylou Harris up there, people really want performers to succeed, and I think you'll find that your reviews are more glowing than you would have given...

There was a brief spell when I was upset (posted in the Struggling Mono thread a couple of weeks ago) because a mutual friend confessed to Julian that she has a crush on him. I guess I'm just slow to process things, because I'm fine with it now. I no longer feel angry at her. I saw her on...

Your conversation with Chops is nearly identical to one I just had with Julian, right down to the retiring somewhere warm, without snow! I am also okay with "no guarantees," because let's face it -- nobody has guarantees, even married mono couples who've been together since the days of Sonny...

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I read your blog religiously, reverie, and when I read about her deleting your Facebook birthday wish, I thought it was extremely passive-aggressive. Even if GalaGirl is correct and C. deletes all generic birthday wishes, she had to know this would send a message to you. She sounds like a...

I love an unapologetic passion for things that other people find geeky or lame (even if it's something I find geeky or lame). It's a total turn-on to me because it makes me think that person is true to himself. By the same token, I am quite turned OFF by men who are fanatics about some...

Thanks, nycindie-- I read your post on my phone the other day but am just getting a chance to respond, and I've been thinking about this. I think you're right that I do feel some ownership in this particular case -- possessiveness in response to Connie in particular, because I don't like her or...

Yes, sensing that Connie would cause massive drama - I think that's it. I am very relieved that he's not into her. I definitely don't want veto power in this relationship... but I also don't want to feel like I need it. I do trust Julian's judgment. I know we won't always see eye to eye about...

Thanks, GreenAcres. It feels good to talk to someone about this. Yes, I think it is something that makes little intellectual sense, but I still feel very upset. I feel disrespected by Connie (that's her name). I definitely wouldn't expect her to talk to me about her crush on Julian -- I would...

Thanks for your perspective, GreenAcres. Intellectually I accept what you're saying, but I still feel really angry at her because she's someone I know, who I thought was my friend. If it had been someone who had never met me, I know I wouldn't be angry. In fact, that has already happened twice...

Struggling this week. A mutual friend of ours told Julian she has feelings for him. He doesn't reciprocate those feelings at all, and nothing is going to happen between them, but I feel angry at her. She's not a close friend and doesn't know I see myself as monoamorous, so I'm also angry at...

I think you should be direct as possible here. "I originally canceled our plans because I didn't want to drive in that weather, but it looks like it will be fine. Have you made other plans or do you want to get together?" If you wait for him to suggest it, you're just setting yourself up for...

Good luck with all this, Reverie -- I hope Rider gets to have the conversation with Claire ASAP and that it doesn't spiral into drama. Her reaction to your letter makes me think she's quick to jump to the worst possible conclusion. People like that are exhausting. And Claire doesn't seem to have...

I was thinking about this term (which I really like, don't get me wrong) and wondering if it should be mono-flexible to align with the logic of hetero-flexible. Meaning that hetero people who are hetero-flexible are willing to engage in homosexual acts under certain circumstances, so if you're...

My struggle isn't with my relationship with Julian; it's with my friends and family who don't understand. Everyone seems to want to know what Julian and I are working towards, like our relationship needs to have some ultimate goal. Almost all of my close friends think that I should want Julian...

I'm so sorry the outcome of your night together is unsatisfactory. I hope you'll be able to talk to him in person soon; I've definitely been the one sending texts and email into the ether and left speculating when I don't hear anything back. It's crazy-making. Take care of yourself, and good luck.

Really pretty. Excellent colors -- that's basically my favorite color combo. And the feathers are a really neat touch. :D