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Ok so I actually dozed off in my living room last night. She noticed that I wasn't in bed and came down and asked me to come to bed. As I was getting under the covers, barely half awake, she asked me if I could take the day off so she could go meet this guy. When I said no she made the good and...

The hell of NRE and desire How am I supposed to feel when I hear, "could you blow off work so I can drive two hours for a hook-up"? How I am I supposed to feel when I am placed second to an online Dom and then find out that the rules of the D/s relationship will be skirted via a loophole so...

It was like getting hit by a lightening bolt. My experience on Saturday really opened my eyes and that helped. I think that my wife is very conflicted. I can't disagree with your assessment. I really think that she needs and would love being involve with the community! I think there is a lot of...

Tinwen, Thank you for your consideration and counsel! I agree, I thought the negotiations would take longer. And maybe they are in the process of negotiating while easing into play. This is something I will have to ask about. I think that this is exactly what I did. If this had occurred...

The game is afoot Hello everyone. Well, it looks like the game has begun. Yesterday, my wife began her journey into the world of being a cyber-submissive. While the terms of the agreement have not been fully discussed with me as of this writing, I do have some small details. These details were...

Spork, Please see the personal message that I sent you.

This is how I feel but I can't know if it is true because when I try to ask I either can't find the right words, it starts an argument or she shuts down. As far as hiding, I think she is not being open and honest and the whole cyber relationship thing was hidden from me in the beginning. I...

Kevin, again you are spot on. In the past, I had few issues with her relationships and the issues I did have were easy to resolve because we did communicate very effectively. We also had something that was "our thing." We live in Colorado and we loved to go gambling at the casinos in Cripple...

I am sorry if I am hard to follow. If we were talking in person it would be much easier to understand but in typing my posts I tend to leave out details. Still, even though it may be messy, your insight has been pretty good! So I think that I am trying to read her mind to an extent but I also...

I think so. It hurts because poly and BDSM was something I thought we were going to do together. In her defense, my anxiety and introversion probably pushed her toward this attempt at separation.

Tinwen, I did in fact read your reply before I went to the club. I took what you said into consideration and I had a wonderful time. I met a couple of great people and the folks there either were very eager to introduce me to the lifestyle and their club or they just left me alone. I was able...

Kevin, I think that you are correct when you say that she is unwilling to hear or negotiate with me. I don't know if it is because of the BDSM or not. I ten to think that it is more narcissism than anything. It seems to me that we can talk and she takes my words into consideration until I say...

I can empathize! Hi Spork! I can certainly empathize with you. Currently I am in a situation where I feel that I am being treated poorly by my wife. She says that I am her primary but gives me no attention nor do I get any sort of priority of position, which was a rule we established (Primary's...

Tinwen, Thank you for your response and for your counsel! I think the best thing to say is that right now I am just so damn confused, I'm not sure which way is up. I think that it is clear that I have a pretty low opinion of myself right now and I am falling into many mind traps. I wish that you...

I think that I can relate a little. I have been trying unsuccessfully to meet someone and start a relationship outside of my marriage but it hasn't worked out. I am also an introvert and I suffer from general and social anxiety disorders. Makes meeting people difficult. I realized the other day...

Over the past few weeks I have been doing a lot of soul searching. If anyone has read any of my previous posts, they will know that I have been having some marital issues. The cliff notes version is this. My wife and I both identify as poly, we are living a poly lifestyle since 2014, my wife has...

There are three sides to every story; what I say, what she says and what's really going on. I have only given my side. Right now we are working on figuring out what's really going on. One of our rules, and its a hard rule, is that I will be told when there is another person. I don't want to know...

colorodicali, Hi there! It was nice reading your post. I find that there are some similarities between us. Most notably, while I identify as poly, I have actually never been involved with anyone outside of my marriage. My wife on the other hand has been and is currently engaging in what I like...

Hi everyone! I am returning to the forum after nearly 18 months and I hope that I can get some of the same types of advice that I was given before. So my wife and I have been living the lifestyle since 2014. In that time she has had one boyfriend and multiple more casual encounters. I...

I have confronted my abuser. Im not sure how it happened but I was chatting with her on facebook the other day and she started in with the abuse. I told her to stop and that I was tired of being treated that way and that I was very afraid of her. Of course she told me that my fear is not her...