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Moderator note: The hijack stops here. If you are going to post in this thread please ensure that your reply is related to the original topic or your posts will be deleted. If you wish to continue discussing definitions of "poly" I recommend doing so in the definitions of polyamory thread.

Moderator note: If you're wondering how you didn't notice some of the posts in this thread before, it's because the related discussion hijacking the I'm not finding long-term partners, he is thread has been merged into this one.

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My interpretation of the quotes you cite is quite different from yours. I can, for example, be multidimesionally involved with someone without also being involved in anything to do with their other partners. In any case, I refer you to the latter part of item #11 in the User Guidelines ...

Where on earth did you get that idea? Poly relationships don't need to be intertwined to be poly. In a perfect world a new addition shouldn't detract from existing relationships, but nothing says it has to have any positive effect on anyone not directly involved in it.

I'm solo poly, so my answers will differ from those of someone in a kitchen-table arrangement. In my case? I feel close to my partners because I can rely on them and trust that they'll be there when I need them. Those qualities are part of what attracted me to them in the first place and I...

To avoid timing out in mid-post, make sure the "Remember Me" box is checked when you log in.

Hence my use of the past tense. Again, what sort of personal information are you concerned about here? Your site username and password?

The first section—which I assumed was copied from the article—said that, but your follow-up commentary made it sound like once you visit an unencrypted site you computer gets hacked and all your data is out there for anyone to find. It's misleading. Unless people are using their banking...

Correction: Your WiFi can be snooped on, and if you're visiting a unsecured website the data you exchange with that website could be compromised. This vulnerability requires someone to be physically close enough to your router to join your network. It's not something that can be exploited remotely.

Maybe she's trying for "opposites attract". I always figured that people with those type of answers either mis-clicked when answering or had a brain fart.

Perhaps you didn't express yourself clearly. What did you actually say to her when you talked? Was it a nebulous "We don't see each other enough" (and leave her to join the dots), or a more concrete "I want to see you at least once a week. How does Thursdays sound?" The latter is more...

Ok, now I'm home from work and not trying to quote on my phone, here goes... Despite the fact that you knew how hard she'd fallen for you, you'd been treating her like a sex toy. It doesn't matter why you chose to only see her for sex, it was your decision to do so. As the hinge you're the...

"Make her be friends with me!" doesn't work in primary school, and it's not going to work with adults. Your wife needs to realise that she can't control other people; only herself. It sounds like you need to set (and maintain) some boundaries with your wife. For example, let her know that...

I'm coming up on my 6th anniversary with one BF in a month, so no. I can turn to him if I need to, but prefer to maintain my independence. Do you only consider yourself to be not single when you're living with someone and have merged your finances?

You might find it worthwhile to read about Solo Poly.

Has he considered doing his share of housework like laundry?

Welcome back. There's usually a leap in spam around this time of the year (I call it Spam-mas), and sometimes valid posts accidentally get their checkbox ticked along with the spammy ones due to the sheer volume that the Spaminators are having to deal with. I'm not sure what level of...

Moderator note: For anyone who's wondering, Bouncingbetty has been accidentally caught up in a spam sweep and banned. Hopefully they'll be back shortly.

We gave the OP the benefit of the doubt, but the (now deleted) post immediately before MeeraReed's post was undeniably spam. The OP has now been banned, but as a conversation has started in this thread I've left the rest of it intact.