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"It's a man's place to pay" doesn't hold water when he's causing you to pay for half of it. You're married and share finances (from what I'm gathering from your posts) so half that money is yours. Why is it more fair for you to pay for half his dates than for her to do so? Especially if it puts...

23 I told my husband how I felt about it. He wasn't comfortable with it so we decided to take things slowly. A year to a year and a half later we decided to give it a go and I pursued a man I man interested in. My husband wasn't polyamorous. He was hurt by my being poly and so I didn't...

Except people do cheat in poly relationship. They hide a partner because they think their other partner(s) wouldn't like the new one. They lie about having sex because they think their partner(s) would think it's too soon (or they know it's too soon but do it any way and then lie about it) They...

It's difficult without knowing him. But I think a nice gesture would be to find something for all three of you. Something you could all carry that would be a reminder that, while only two of your are married, all three of you are committed to one another. As you said, a ring has connotations...

What I find the weirdest here is that if the OP I said "I expect honestly from all my partners about who else they are dating. That's just the way I work/ what works best for me", nobody would have complained. But because her husband agrees with her (and he should, as should all her partners...

It seems to me the situation is complicated by the fact that he's not out, but aside from that, just take things as they go. You all care about each other and you can make it work. Because you guys are married, there is always the option that he can invite you as his "married couple of friends"...

I know a couple that's the other way around, where the woman is gay and the guy straight. They asked the same questions as they were worried about it, but just like in your case, what really matters isn't whether it is "normal" or even common, but whether it can work for you, and how.

It is my opinion that polyamory is an orientation. So to me, there is absolutely no contradiction. The person can be polyamorous and cheat, if they love more than one partner and are cheating. Even if polyamorous describes the relationship rather than the person, it's still possible. If you...

I'd say the lack of picture is probably the main problem. Being kinky can also be a bit too... forward, a lot of people will assume you're only in it for the sex when you mention your kinks on your profile, so depending on what they are, it might be best not to dwell too much on them, unless you...

I've heard that if you want the best matches (poly-wise), the best is to only answer poly-related questions, and mark them as "mandatory" when asked about how important it is. Then high match = poly, without all the other questions making super-mono people get a high compatibility score with you.

There are a few, but they're barely ever used. You're better off using OKCupid, you'll find more poly people there.

It's a hashtag used on twitter with anecdotes about what women commonly have to face due to sexism. It was created, as far as I understand, in response to comments that things like that were rare and most women didn't experience them.

I get that and the title also surprised me, but you do say "girlfriend" and it's commonly used that way. I think becoming aggressive and insulting was out of line. The title sound super disrespectful as it's used like "Girl" is her name or something. There isn't even an article. But in the post...

After months without messages, today I received one that is a first name (all lowercase) and a phone number. I can only be baffled that the guy thinks there is a chance I'll call him.

That sounds pretty good. I'd be kicked out of the country if I got a divorce now, but I've always thought that marriage shouldn't be required, and kinda go against polyamory anyways. Good job on doing it!

Intimacy definitely doesn't have to mean sex. Sexual intimacy is sex, sure. Intimacy, by itself, to me mean a deep connection and the willingness to make yourself vulnerable in front of one another. That's not always present in people who have sex, either, although many people who are sexual can...

Well, yes and no. I mean, the last part you're talking about refers to A and B dating. A is asexual, B isn't. As a result, B is nonmonogamous. B might be swinging, but B isn't asexual. A might be asexual, but A isn't swinging. So I'm not sure I would call them compatible. One part of a couple is...

I could imagine an asexual person swinging because it's their partner's kink and they're willing to compromise that much, but honestly I can't imagine it being too common, and it would probably be like someone straight having sex with their gender because their partner finds it hot: some people...

I'm not sure exactly what you mean by social bonding, but it's pretty common knowledge that bonobos, which are our closest relatives, use sex as a form of social bonding. They use it after fighting, they use it to socialise, and they pretty much have no taboos about sex. Dolphins also use sex in...

So true! When I went, it was more about people trying to find someone to date/have sex with, and less about hanging out with similar people. It was annoying because I wasn't looking for new partners, but for people I could talk with who would relate. Meetups vary a lot from one another, but...