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Pretty much what I was thinking. There are so many things relating to children that people use as arguments against polyamory, that occur in monogamous relationships too. There are divorces, step-families, boyfriends and girlfriends of your parents, etc, in tons of families nowadays. Pretty...

I think in the cases where it isn't legally considered rape, the words "violated" and "violation" work best. While they can be a synonym of rape, they're also broader. I personally think that while there isn't a crime if there is no victim, there can be a victim without a criminal. It's...

I think it's a complex issue. I mostly agree with SC, but I think there are also cases where one person is very aggressive and enthusiastic and the other is shocked and so doesn't say no right away, and then has this feeling that it's "too late" to say no. I think people need to be told that...

Asymmetrical and hypocritical are not the same thing. I'm a straight female, I will not date females, but I expect whoever I date to be attracted to females and willing to date them - which I am not. Am I hypocritical? If so, all straight people are. If her partners are also fine with that...

I hate phone calls as well. But unlike some of you, I also really dislike face to face. I'm most comfortable in IMs, then texts, then emails. After that, face to face and then phone. Now, if I'm in a serious relationship with someone, chances are I'm comfortable enough with them to enjoy...

I'd be fine with each person being only allowed to have one person on their health insurance. However, if you can add unlimited kids, it seems weird that you could only add a single adult. But sure. I think the health system is completely broken in many countries. Everyone should have health...

Pictures for the article I assume. But probably a good idea to check directly with the OP

Yeah, the children argument is one of the most stupid ones. If two people of the same sex shouldn't get married because they can't procreate, why was it legal for my grandfather to remarry, when his second wife was way past menopause? And should people take tests before they get married to make...

Yeah, in the past few months I have received zero messages, but several guys a day "like" me. At first I would check out their profile and send messages to some (although most, well, it was obvious they hadn't read mine. Their profiles were pretty much a list of everything that wasn't me being...

The whole thing seems sorted out now, but my perspective on it, after reading Mahogany's second post, is quite simple. Bo asked her to sneak out and have sex. She really wanted to, but said they should wait until after the party. Then, after the party, when things were winding down and she had...

Yes, I think it's the same with BDSM for instance where a lot of people think "there is no way this person is actually fine with this! They must have been coerced and/or brainwashed into thinking they're ok with it!" In the end, it's really about people being unable to conceive that others may...

I have never reached polysaturation. I think it would depend on my partners and the kind of relationship that would work for them. I can see myself with 2 or 3 marriage-like relationships at once, but probably not more, however I can imagine having more partners if they're of a less involved...

My husband and I are looking into moving. We've been looking with a couple of friend, who is mono. It would have never occurred to me that it was "weird". I also know plenty of people who lived at 3 or 4 as roommate, and got into relationships, and girlfriends or boyfriends moved in with them...

Well, I define single as "not having any partner at all", not "available to more partners". It's like, I have a sexual partner but am available for sex with others, that doesn't make me celibate. Now, I'm aware that "single" can also mean "not married" but that's certainly not what dating sites...

Honestly, what personally bugs me is when one person has clear power over another. Parents and children for instance (especially when they are still children and unable to consent). At that point it seems less a relationship and more a case of one person forcing another. Ultimately, from a moral...

Marrying your cousin is legal in many states in the US, as well as all of Canada, and I believe all of Europe (at least all of Western Europe). It's usually not considered incest, your genes differ enough at that point that it makes no difference compared to marrying anyone else who was also...

So I know the conversation is now on when it's best to disclose, but I would like a clarification. If I understood your problem right, you have no problem getting answers when you don't mention poly, and you have no problem getting answers from mono people even if you mention poly, but poly...

When you say "couple", is it your word for relationship, or does it need to be just two people? Because that kind of defeats the point of it being polyamory.

Well, FWBs are not the same as the friendships monogamous people would consider "fine". And I don't think it's only about the sexual component. There is a form of intimacy which involves hugging, kissing, confiding into each other in more emotional ways... I think some people might already do...

Yeah, polyamory means several loves, and I interpret it to mean several loving relationships, but I don't see why friendship wouldn't apply. It's a form of love too. Sure, some people use "FWB" to mean "some stranger I have sex with but FWB sounds better" but there are also people who use "my...