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I agree with the OP. While there are similarities between the two fights for acceptance, poly is starting way, way ahead. Homosexuality starting with people being killed over it, going to prison over it. This doesn't happen with polyamory. Homosexuality, when considered wrong, is usually...

That's why I like saying it's not a slope, but a staircase. Every step is a new stair climbed. They all take effort, but they all bring you closer to the top. A slippery slop makes it sound like once you push the person with the first little thing, they'll just slide forever with no effort...

I've heard things like co-wives and co-husbands but that implies a) a marriage-like relationship for both relationships mentioned and b) that the two metamours are the same gender. Although I guess co-spouse would fix the latter, and co-partner might fix both?

I agree to some extent. I have no urge to "hide" the kinkster portion of the community, but putting them at both ends makes it sound like they cover the whole spectrum, when there are definitely vanilla people as well. It makes poly people seem "weirder", less average, and poly itself seem like...

I agree that length alone is not a good way to determine how successful a relationship is. I do believe it can be a factor depending on the goals and preferences of the people involved, but that important shouldn't be applied by people external to the relationship. In other words, some people...

aromantic is the word you're looking for. Aamorous would be too confusing, since amorous means loving, plus aromantic (aro for short) is already an established term. Don't forget polygamy/monogamy (number of actual partners, physical or not). Being polyamorous doesn't mean you have several...

The context of the quote was "I've been invited to poly weddings, but I've never been invited to a poly 5-year anniversary". I assume that it referred to the anniversary of said wedding. Thing is, though, I've never been invited to a 5 year anniversary ever. Mono, poly, whatever. People tend to...

But you have to PAY a nanny :p

I like the consonance of it, too :)

Before I met my ex-husband, I was already poly, but didn't know about polyamory. I just knew that liking someone never stopped me from liking another, and was very worried about the idea of monogamy. But I got convinced that when I found "the one", things would be different. They were not. I...

I definitely don't have sex for the first time with someone if they're drunk. Yes, they might be drinking on purpose to lose their inhibitions because they want to have sex to begin with. But there is also the possibility that they're not really into it and the alcohol is making them do things...

I know someone named Micheal. It bugs me every time I read his name. I keep wanting to pronounce it differently. Obviously his name isn't the main issue. I doubt you would have been all over him if it had been spelled more traditionally :P I re-enabled my profile recently, but to find friends...

I feel the same way as you, but.... Both friends and children can feel extremely jealous and cheated on in the exact situations you mention. It's just that we're taught that that jealousy is bad, while romantic jealousy is "normal and means you care".

Why not? The point of polyamory is that you have more than one partner (at some point, at least). Nothing says the first one has to be primary (of course, you can absolutely have more than one primary, so being married doesn't mean you can't be someone else's primary as well). If you reject...

It's been a while since I last posted, because there was sensitive information and I wasn't comfortable talking online, just in case. Long story short, I missed the window to apply for a green card while legally in the US by a few days, due to the divorce taking longer than anticipated. I still...

The human brain is pretty much a very complex computer. A computer could be built to have an empathy-like behavior of analyzing people to figure out the best way to act towards them. Nowadays we suck at programming that, but we're talking about an advanced computer here.

This is still a movie made by humans, who could have created a plot without all the cheating if they had felt like it, or even realised it was an option. If we're talking about the effect a movie can have on society, we should take into account the fact that it was also made by that society...

I heard about it, but from what I heard, she's cheating the whole time, doing things behind his back, including things like planning threesomes without warning him and stuff like that... A lot of people seem to have enjoyed it but were annoyed about the lack of honesty.

I can totally imagine being mono. I've had enough people tell me about how when they love someone, it "turns off" their ability to be attracted to new people in a romantic way. I get that part. What people are talking about finding weirder is those who say they can be in love with more than one...

The first two points seem to me to be more the case in monogamy than in polyamory. The third one I'll give you, if your partners are pieces of shit, they can use other partners as an excuse. Of course, you're still responsible for your own communications with everyone, so spotting such lies...