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For those of you who had some sort of ceremony, or are interested in having one, I'm curious about proposals in polyamorous relationship. Does anyone have experience with proposing to two people at once (or within a small amount of time, if it happened separately), or proposing to someone when...

I realise the primary/secondary issue has been discussed a lot, but I saw this in another thread: And I wanted to talk more about it. First, for me "primary" and "secondary" are badly worded descriptions of stages. You can have several primary relationships, or you can have none. Same with...

Okay, so something big and unexpected happened to me today. Seamus, my boyfriend, has always had a rule that he's not comfortable with my dating his coworkers, and I always understood that. I have a big crush on a coworker of his, have had it for months, he knows about it, and I had made peace...

I saw the link on KT's blog but didn't want to hijack it. I thought people who wanted to take the questionnaire could share their answers here. For the record, I assume that polys should answer "no" to the exclusive relationship question, and probably write down how long they've been with the...

There was a thread about "how do you deal with insecurity?". I thought I would create a thread about the "opposite": what causes the insecurity for you? What's the basis behind your rules? What's making you feel safe, and why? I'm interested in knowing what is a big deal for other people. As...

I've been wondering a few things about pet names. Those of you who have more than one partner, do you use the same pet names, different ones, a mix of both? If you use different ones, have you ever used the wrong one accidentally? Have you ever used a pet name only to realise your other partner...

Okay, so I've always known I was poly, but I never really thought about group sex. For me lovemaking was more of a one-on-one thing, group sex sounded like a "just for sex" kind of thing. But when I started dating my boyfriend (long distance relationship), well it kind of changed. Long story...

Hi there, I have identified as poly for the past few years, more if you include the time when I didn't realise it had a name. I joined the forums a few months ago because I had developed feelings for another man than my husband and wasn't sure how to proceed. Now, things have just taken a life...

BBC Documentary: "I Love You And You And You - End of Monogamy" Has anyone seen this BBC documentary? My husband has just heard about it the other day, and I searched for it in the forums but the only result that came up was a Calgary article with a similar name. I'm very curious about the...

Hi, I am a poly woman married to a mono man. We have discussed polyamory in the past and talked about rules, etc, but while he stresses that he is comfortable with the idea, not shocked, and that he realises it could work, he is also insecure and afraid. We talked about it again today, as we...

Hello everyone :) My name is Alice, I am female, heterosexual and aged 25. I am married to a 32 year-old man who is currently my only relationship. As far as I can remember, I have always been polyamorous. I thought it would change when I met "the right one", but I only ended up meeting "the...