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Can you clarify what is so hard? My ex-metamour had that issue, it was very hard for her to see/be aware of my partner being with me. Yet, he and I had no issues with her going away for a weekend with her boyfriend (I mean, yay! We both get tons of relaxed time with each other!) I tried, but...

And yet we know everything there is to know about penis size.... Priorities, huh?

Hmmm, interesting point. I have to admit I'm really not familiar on statistics, in my mind it just makes sense that there are more bi folk (which really covers a range, but using the term for simplicity's sake) than gay folk. Forgive my ignorance, but is it really true that having a gay parent...

I'd stick around here for help. On most forums I go to, "harem building" gets bashed. But I really don't see the issue in a man only dating mono women or a woman only dating mono men, so long as they are willing to put in the time and effort needed. It does help if you have a preference in...

As a bi female, I can say that I don't NEED both to be happy, but I am much happier when I do have both male and female partners. I could never be happy in the long run having to choose one or the other (although I really do only need one male partner at a time, oddly, I really prefer having...

I'm pretty sure the poly community itself is aware that bisexuality doesn't automatically mean non-monogamy, let alone polyamory. I think this mostly comes from ill-informed mono folk who see that many poly folk are bi and make assumptions. To be fair, it's easier for bi folk to be poly. A...

Glad we could help! I went through hell with my partner in a very similar situation and am happy to offer you an ear to listen :)

Unfortunately, I went through the same experience and there was no huge misunderstanding or rumor. Sometimes, people just...show their true colors. I guess I can offer a couple of explanations for what happened in MY crazy ex-metamour's case, but not sure it's accurate: 1) Kids. She was...

I don't agree with that at all. If I were attacked, I am sure my partner would go to our new girlfriend for comfort. I think I'd feel a little weird if they, say, just went out clubbing. But it's natural for sex to follow when two people are snuggled close. I can imagine myself, in my...

Regarding falling in love with someone, I don't think it's possible, with a healthy relationship to NOT know that your partner is in love with someone else. I can't even fathom it being possible for that to escape my notice. I wouldn't require it as a rule, unless you both are long distance...

Absolutely not. I do not approve of who my partner dates, unless it's someone he's thinking of dating together. Obviously that directly affects me. I'll also help him consider new dating partners.

Given the rules, I'm not shocked that he lied. Not great, but the person feeling confined often pushes boundaries. When you first got together, was it clear that he was poly? If so, the setup you offer is pretty pathetic, no offense, but it's like being told, "Hey, of course you can have...

I'm curious how he cheated on you when you said you were poly? Of course it's possible, but you haven't made it clear exactly how he screwed up. Especially since your issue appears to be that he loves her, and, well, isn't that encouraged in poly? I'm not surprised in a long distance...

Sigh. This is why I just don't date monos. I struggle to understand how someone loving me, or me loving someone, can ever be negative. I don't consider a partner's use of drugs at all on the same level. I get if that leads me to neglect a partner. Of course they'd be upset. But that...

It's disturbing that you feel like his loving others means he isn't giving you his "full support." The whole concept of poly is that love doesn't diminish if you love more than one. But love seems to be a zero sum game for you. I'm wondering if this IS the right choice for you (being with a...

Well, why not? If you love him, doesn't the thought of him being with someone who loves him and brings him happiness bring YOU happiness, too? Obviously there are types who just use poly as a way to sleep around and selfishly take care of themselves at all times, without considering their...

I'm a bit confused on what you want. It appears you want a relationship, with you and your current partner as the most important relationship....with a close secondary that dates both of you....but has her own most important relationship(s)?

I have to say, it's pretty awesome that your relationship with your met amour is close enough that you and she could live under the same roof, with you, your husband, her, and her husband. Of course, be careful what you wish for ;) She may want her other lovers also living together :) And...

Also, this. I do not sacrifice ANYTHING for my partners' happiness. Nor do they for me. Rather than build a relationship on sacrifice, we build it on giving. I won't even date someone who enjoys sacrificing for my sake; I do not want to be with a martyr, I want to be with a partner.

That's pretty anti-poly for a poly forum. It's not about having sex with multiple people; it's about being with multiple people. I do know that I could never be happy in a monogamous relationship. Hell, if I had to, I could go the next year with NO sex at all, if I wasn't able to see my...