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It's not tedious, it's lovely. Anyway, even if it were, it doesn't matter. I plan on having kids with him and I won't live with parents in separate homes. But I won't stop him, or myself, from having other relationships.

I think if it works for you, that's fine. But I'd warn the OP to be careful on this one, as if he falls in love with this other girlfriend and wants a family with her, he'll end up splitting his time in two. Not just being gone a couple of nights. It really sounds like his preference is for...

You're going to wait till you're all three living together?

I didn't realize there were babies. But what if he wants more time with her than that? He'll be forced to leave the house and the babies in order to spend time with her. Wouldn't it be easier if she could join in the family and home life, in order to help support and build? I think it's very...

""The only reason I keep trying is because very soon, I will be living out there. (She currently lives 1400 miles away) Very soon, we will be confronted by the fact that he wants us all to live together. I think it's best to try now instead of learning we can't tolerate each other." That whole...

Neither do I. She gave him one night of mediocre fooling around. I give him basically everything he needs (he just wants more of me, really, just like I want more of what he gives, time, affection, intimacy, financial security etc.).

But you have to give gifts that are wanted by the person, not gifts YOU want to give. It reminds me of this woman on a show who said she was giving her husband an alligator skin purse, that he could give back to her. He may NOT appreciate how you choose to give love. That's okay, although it...

Yeah, I can't believe his FWB puts up with it either. Turns out she was hoping he'd leave me for her...Plus, I think she has lots of FWBs.

I think it's possible if you are a network style poly, rather than family style. I do beiieve it's much harder. You basically have to split your lives between multiple people. For myself, our polyship is just not willing to give up that much time with our partners, for someone who DIDN'T want...

You aren't requiring anyone to have sex with anyone. You're limiting it to people who want both of you. You're never gonna be poly with that standard, but not everyone is Poly. Some people are just into multiple sexual partners.

Exactly. It's not to be mean. But any metamour who chooses to be apart from the family just won't get enough time to develop the kind of deep relationship I share with my currently only partner.

It's only stupid if you're poly. I identify as poly, but will occasionally engage with non mono types. Rules like that generally drive me away, but I've made exceptions.

Well, "cowgirl" isn't the right term, but I don't have a proper term. He broke up with his FWB today after she admitted to not being okay with me being with him. She and he were supposed to call me during their date (this is their second) and when it came time, she, in his words, "went back...

I think Lovebunny is right...take it as a kindness and move on. If this keeps up as a trend, mention to her that it makes you uncomfortable to feel like she's scheduling your time with him. But please, go with your instinct and talk directly towards her. Don't make him the middleman. She...

Thanks. You just really have to understand that not everyone has the same values. Say I'm interested in someone who is mono. To them, offering to be my one and only is a precious gift. For me, it's a terrible burden. So if they offer that to me, they'll be confused why I'm not...

Jealousy is so not attractive... Do you encourage her to be jealous of other women?

How long have you been dating him? 7 months seems quick to move in. Not that you shouldn't, but for your own sake, it can sometimes be best to wait. Now you're finding yourself in conflict WHILE living with your partner and metamour. Maybe this is just a one-off thing, but if this starts to...

Poly is selfish when it's all about what YOU want and you're pushing people to accept poly when they don't want it. Poly is generous when everyone is genuinely poly and everyone is getting what they need/want by opening the relationship.

I should probably have said generally in relationships, mono or poly or whatever. And of course the existing 'ship has say into how their 'ship works. Rules, standards, whatever. If I start dating A's husband B, and their relationship says only threesomes with both A and B are allowed, I...

When it rains I've been feeling very lonely this past couple of weeks. And all our prospectives rather died off. But than a new influx of dates came in-- again!! A series of double dates, a prospective girlfriend in my hometown, and at least one of the double dates looks like it has the...