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If you choose to stay with your mono girlfriend and live poly, knowing she doesn't like it and it will hurt her, you really only have one option: A "have your cake and eat it too" life. It's impossible of course, to have that happen. It's also impossible to get what you say you want; a happy...

Also, why is it okay for him to want to just use her for sex, but no feelings? How would you feel if he treated you like that? If he were the kind of person who just wanted to use you for sex, but didn't really care about you as a person?

He's not asking you to be polyamorous, but to accept him. He's accepted that you are monoamorous, has he not? Has he pushed you to be in love with someone else? Told you that you really are poly, that everyone is poly, and you just are denying it?

Oops, this isn't an LDR :) Just, due to various circumstances, we can't always be in the same bed at night. I've never actually done an LDR; physical touch is just too important to me. And I need to be in their presence often (I'm sort of okay with being away for a few days, sometimes a...

I love that idea! Especially as we like the same kind of movies (we went to the same one twice now and will probably go a third time, if possible).

Unfortunately no relationship is ever "stable" and no one is ever "ready." I mean, you can be as prepped as possible. But you never really know till you experience it. I entered into a relationship with someon who described his marriage as "perfect" who had been open for 15 years, who had a...

We text, FB chat, kik, Skype, and Words with Friends chat. All in same day. Email would be overkill :)

Oh, my, yes! If group marriage was legal, we'd be married in six months. But if it can only apply to one other? I'll suck it up and create my own legal contract.

We play Words with Friends. I like that. Reading a mutual book is a good idea!

Crappy day dealing with the bank. I get back from the bank and my partner is talking to our girlfriend on the phone. And I hear him saying, "...and she's had a rough day and I wanted to spoil her a little tonight and hoping you could help." I heart being poly. How awesome an exchange is...

True. Taxes, legal benefits. But you can have those outside of marriage. It's just more work.

Well, that IS kind of the point of marriage. My partner married, not thinking he'd ever want another significant relationship, maybe just some casual flings on the side. Thought he needed marriage to create a family. But you really don't. We'll probably have a commitment ceremony and...

Was just looking over the Poly Vignettes thread, noticed was a new story, and that spurred this thought. What do you do when your partner is LDR or just away for a long time, or short time, or however long? Some of the things that have helped a lot (and are cheap and don't involve actual...

Indeed he does. We normally just sign off, but he has just watched me sleep for hours before when he can (I can tell because the chat log shows the call lasted for two hours or so after I fell asleep). But normally, we just sign off. This was definitely because I was in a particularly...

God, I hope you have more to offer them than "staying together." I've read divorce forums and plenty of kids are basically, "Dear God, but I was grateful when my parents finally admitted they were wrong for each other and split up." Kids can tell when you're staying together for them, and not...

That's awesome that you could admit a mistake. We all, do, but it's hard to swallow our pride and admit it. You of course weren't "expecting too much," to want hugs and kisses. It was just unfair to not ask, and then get mad at him :) Feeling better now? :)

I get that this is very painful for you. But they don't want to lose you, they love you. As long as you give them any hope-- and not filing divorce papers IS giving them hope-- they'll keep trying. It's too late to go back to monogamy. Is there no way you can share his love..? You may not...

My partner and I have a strict "no veto" rule; but we also only bring in partner that are a part of both of our lives, get along with everyone involved, and preferably are close, romantic partners (yes, that limits us a lot, but we're okay with that and understand that not many women will be...

Kitty, I'm sorry you're hurting right now. I've never been pregnant but have experienced pregnant friends. I don't know what you mean by "calling it off," but I really think you should reach out to both for support right now. They've both said they love you. She's probably just freaked out...

There's nothing more noble in seeking love or sex. I prefer the love side. But I like sex too.